Amber Rose Scores a Hit for Sexual Consent on the Oprah Winfrey Network

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Amber Rose and Tyrese on “It’s Not You, It’s Men.”

People in BDSM communities spend a lot of time talking about consent, and with good reason: It’s the linchpin of kinky sex. The ability for two people to negotiate limits, as well signals that will bring the whole thing to a crashing halt if something starts to go wrong, is the thing that draws the line between a sexy, invigorating flogging and a brutal assault.

We also spend so much time talking about consent because mainstream society talks about it so little. It’s a struggle to get schools to teach any sex education at all beyond the basics of reproduction and how to protect yourself from disease during penis-in-vagina sex. Talking about sex as pleasure, never mind learning to tell someone “You can put your finger in my ass, but not your cock,” isn’t even on the curriculum.

For advanced kinksters, safewords might seem so basic as to be tedious, but in our culture at large, the idea that you can withdraw consent after starting sex is a radical one.

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What is Energy Play? Mistress Melissa Brings the Answers to Stockroom University

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Mistress Melissa has been a highly active educator and community member in the BDSM community for over 23 years. Besides being an active volunteer in kink organizations across the country, she’s a professional dominant, a Santeria Spiritual Healer, and Energy Worker.

Energy play is a relatively obscure technique, even in BDSM communities. This weekend, Mistress Melissa will come to Stockroom University to talk about what it is, and how it can be used for intensely intimate and powerful scenes. We talked to her about some of the basics.

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Taylor Swift’s Fetish-Themed “Bad Blood” Won Best Video, and That’s More Than Okay

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The Grammys always put on a great show, but between Lady Gaga’s salute to David Bowie and Kendrick Lamar’s prison-themed performance of “The Blacker the Berry,” there’s even more chatter going on than usual in social media. For us, the award that was most personally significant was Taylor Swift’s triple win: Best Pop Vocal Album and Best Album of the Year for 1989, and Best Video for “Bad Blood.”

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How Do You Give a Kinky Massage? Master Hercules Shows Us How at Stockroom University

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Can massage be kinky? For many, the instinctive answer would be a derisive snort; as soon as you say “kink,” the images that first come to mind for most people look like the stage gear for a concert by The Cramps circa 1987: black leather catsuits, chains, collars, whips, and wickedly shiny pointy things. Say “massage,” on the other hand, and you’re more likely to call forth images of gently sensual touching, perhaps enhanced with the application of organic coconut oil on your partner’s skin and some smooth jazz playing in the background.

A quick browse through our site will show just how much we love the black-leather-and-chains style of kink. But at the same time, if we’ve learned nothing else after twenty-seven years of designing and selling BDSM gear, it’s this: anything can be kinky, no matter how vanilla it looks on the surface.

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Feb 13: Michael Ellsberg On How To Safely Kink Up Your Relationship

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You’re talking about how to inject kink into a previously vanilla relationship this Saturday, is that right?

Yeah, it is my sense that there are a lot of singles and couples who are very curious about getting into [BDSM], especially after the book and movie which shall not be named. It’s daunting to get into it. When I was getting into it, I didn’t quite know where to go. I found the scene overwhelming; there are all these terms that are new, there’s perhaps different shades and flavors of kink that newbies are a little bit alarmed by at first, and so it can be challenging to get into it. So, I want to provide a really safe, beginner-friendly place to get just the absolute basics of kink and BDSM.

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Feb. 6-7: Stockroom Has Our First Rummage Sale of 2016!

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A lot of people know The Stockroom mainly for the stuff that we sell online. That’s not unfair; since one of our biggest claims to fame is that when Joel Tucker started the company in 1988, he broke new ground by taking his business online. The Stockroom was the first sex toy company on the Internet, and 28 years later, we’re still here.

But we do a lot of great stuff in the real world, too, and if you’re in the Los Angeles Area, this weekend is a great opportunity to come and see us doing our best work in the latex-and-leather-clad-flesh. Just in time for Valentine’s Day, we’re having our first rummage sale of 2016 today and tomorrow.

Our rummage sales have become legendary among Los Angeles kinksters. When most people have a rummage sale, they bring out obsolete stereo and video equipment, old board games, and that ugly piece of china that some distant relative gave as a present three or four holidays ago. When we do it, it’s a prime opportunity to find some of the sexiest, most imaginative toys and BDSM gear around for amazing prices.

If you love latex and leather, this is the perfect time for you to come out and look at clothes from Syren and Stormy Leather that are in perfect shape and sexy as hell, but for some reason just didn’t find a home before now. And on these two days, the deals on that stuff and various toys and accessories will be so good that you’ll feel like you’re stealing them away.

There’s something for every kink, fetish, and sensual desire, so you’re sure to find something that will make this Valentine’s Day memorable.

So come down to the store between 11 AM and 7PM anytime this weekend. If you’ve never met our staff in person before, this is the perfect chance to introduce yourself.

[Note: We’ve been informed that the 101 and our nearby freeways may have closures due to construction over the weekend. Please check the traffic reports and use alternate routes.]

When: Saturday, February 6 and Sunday, February 7.
11 AM – 7 PM both days.
Where: Stockroom Hall: 2809 1/2 W. Sunset Blvd. Located next to our retail store.

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Mistress Kara Gives Stockroom the Ins and Outs of Good Strap-On Sex

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This week, Stockroom University makes its return with a very popular yet misunderstood topic: Strap-on sex. Dildos are perhaps one of the oldest sex toys around; depictions can be found in ancient Greek vases, and there are even some artifacts from the Paleolithic Era that may have been early dildos. With all their history and popularity, though, people also pick up a lot of half-truths and misconceptions about what strap-on sex is like and how to go about it for the first time. Fortunately, Mistress Kara, the Manager of our own Stockroom Syren Boutique, has extensive knowledge about strap-on sex and will be sharing it this Saturday at Stockroom University. She’ll be covering topics including how to choose the dildo or harness that’s right for you and your partner and how to insure pleasure for wearer and receiver alike. In the Q&A below, Mistress Kara gives her thoughts on some of the basic issues.

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The Stockroom Goes to Vegas: AEE 2016, January 20-23

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As you might already know, this week is a busy one for us. We’re putting on the erotic equivalent of our Sunday best and getting ready to head for Las Vegas to attend this year’s AVN Adult Entertainment Expo (AEE) at Hard Rock Hotel & Casino. The action starts on Thursday, January 20, and lasts through Sunday the 23rd. We hope that lots of you will be there to drop by our booth (#820 in Muse Hall) to say hi in person and check out our gear. If you can’t make, though, the very first thing that you should do is follow us on Periscope to get an inside view. Our Executive Creative Director, Shawn Gentry, will be giving live updates every hour on the hour. Shawn will be interviewing and playing with stars from Burning Angel Productions (including Joanna Angel herself), taking you behind the scenes to parties, and much more. Even if you are at AEE yourself, Shawn’s reports are sure to let you know where all the good stuff is happening at any given time. And there is going to be A LOT going on. Here’s a few of the things that we’ll be doing:

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Wicked Pictures Star jessica drake Offers Frank Talk on Porn and Sex Education

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On January 16, Stockroom University will be proud to welcome jessica drake, one of the biggest names in adult entertainment today. With over 300 performances and three AVN Awards for best actress to her credit, she’s one of the most prolific and acclaimed talents in the industry. But when making appearances to promote her videos at adult boutiques and events, she found that many of her fans craved not just entertainment, but answers to the questions about sexuality that schools and parents regularly ignore. People of all genders grow into adults trying to parse out those answers for themselves, and often the first place they turn to do that is porn, which drake feels is an inappropriate source of education.

So she decided to begin filling that gap with jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex, a series of instructional videos that now covers fourteen volumes on topics ranging from fellatio to plus-size sex. She talked to us about why she was inspired to start working on sexual education and why porn might a great source of fantasy, it’s not a good source of education.

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Why Aftercare is Essential to BDSM: Healing Better to Play Harder

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This weekend, the esteemed sex educator Midori will be returning to Stockroom University to teach two classes: The Exquisite Whip: Amazing Hands-On Flogging Training and How to Create Amazing Scenes: Get Into Their Heads. For more details on what you can expect from the two classes, check out the Q&A with Midori that we published earlier this week.

As always, The Stockroom is very excited to host Midori, who has long been one of the most insightful people that we know. The below excerpt from her book, Wild Side Sex: The Book of Kink is an excellent example of that. Aftercare is one of the elements of BDSM that is often missed in discussions about technique or negotiation, but as Midori says below, it’s essential to good, safe BDSM, and we’re often not aware of  how important it is until it’s not there or done badly.
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