Essential Tools of the Dominant Woman

Her voice drops to a low purr as she leans into her beloved submissive. Her eyes narrow and lips curl into a mischievous grin. She whispers her desires and makes demands to satisfy her whims. Perhaps she feeds off moans of sensual suffering. Perhaps she seeks sexual satisfaction. Maybe she’d like pampering and amusement. This is her time. Because it’s her time, where she speaks and gets what delights her, it’s also their time. It’s a bubble of time and space where no one and nothing else matters. It is a gift to their relationship of clarity, simplicity, authenticity, confidence of belonging and pleasure.

There are four essential tools that the dominant woman needs to make this magic time happen. I also want to share with you three simple and clever tools that make the dominant woman’s play time so much easier and sweeter – more on this later!

The fundamental tools are; your voice, your gaze, your touch and your walk.

Your Voice:
Your voice sets the tone. Gives cue to the bottom on what you share now and where you may take them. Don’t rush it. Drop your voice and slow down the speech a little. If you don’t know what to say, say nothing. Silence makes bottoms squirm. Saying wicked things, hot breath in the ear, with sweet tones creates delightful dilemmas. Your voice is unique – soon your bottom will come to associate that particular tone of your voice with their happy, fun, bottom space.

Your Touch:
Your touch wakes up their senses to the moment and to your intention. Gentle caress makes their skin tingle. Rough grabs put them on alert. Stinging slaps and pinches may be rewards or punishments, depending on how their appetites run.

Your Gaze:
Your gaze reminds them that they must be present and in the here and now. The smiling eyes encouraging a bottom maybe extra strength they need to sweetly suffer through an ordeal. The gaze averted maybe a cruel denial.

Your Walk:
Practice the infamously effective “Queen’s Walk” We practice this form of movement in ForteFemme. Pull your spine up, roll your shoulders back, proudly bring your chest up and tighten your core. Put your weight on your back foot. Then walk slowly. Lock your gaze on your partner. With each step you take, take a breath. Yes, it’s that slow. It sets the tone. It sets the understanding of who owns that time and space in the moment. It’s a great tool of creating confidence in the woman and setting the stage for the partner and the scene.
These are tools that you’ll want to practice and hone over time. At first you might feel awkward, but it will come to you in time. They are subtle but powerful tools.

So now for the fun and crafty tools to make your playtime easier and sweeter!

Blindfolds:
Blindfold is a top’s best friend! With a blindfold on, ever you do is always a surprise. With a blindfold on, they won’t know your expression of befuddlement as you try to figure out some new complicated toy – or when you kick off your heels!

Comfortable Chair:
Why be uncomfortable? Being uncomfortable is the prize for the bottoms. Not something you should endure. Once you’ve Queen’s Walked your way to your ecstatic bottom, enjoy creating and conducting the scene from a place of gorgeous comfort! If you really like the regal seating for play, you might consider selecting toys that are easy to use while seated.

Collection of Kinky Erotic Fiction:
Yes, fiction. Collect and read many, many kinky fiction books. There are so many quality ones out there beyond the ones that mass media repeats. Don’t forget Laura Antoniou’s books. Various anthologies with works from many writers are great. Ernest Greene has a new one out too.

These are both you and your partner to read. For you, it will illuminate what kind of play and mindset turns you on. For your partner, find out what story and which part they liked. Try to get them to tell you what they liked about it. This will give you a deeper idea of how their pleasures are mapped out – and can be far more illuminating than a standard negotiation.

Author and Educator Charlie Glickman Presents: Prostate Play!

Charlie Glickman

Are you ready to discover a new way to have amazing sex? More men and their partners are experimenting with prostate massage or pegging, and they’re finding out how much pleasure it can bring.

If you’re like most folks, when you hear the word “prostate,” you probably think of prostate health concerns like cancer. But what you might not know is that the prostate is also one of the most sensitive erogenous zones that men have. In fact, it’s remarkably similar to the G-spot. Think about everything you’ve heard about the G-spot, and then consider what it would be like to for men to be able to enjoy the same pleasures. Some of the ways that men describe orgasms from prostate play are that they feel bigger, more full-body, more expansive, and more diffuse than the focused sensations of a penis orgasm. Sounds pretty amazing, doesn’t it?

Of course, prostate sensations can also feel fantastic even before orgasm. Imagine that feeling that happens when you’re about to ejaculate. You know the one- it’s the “point of no return.” In that moment, the prostate is contracting in order to produce a portion of the fluid in semen. Now, instead of having that feeling for just a few seconds, imagine that it’s going on for half an hour, or even longer. Prostate massage can feel like you’re on the verge of an orgasm for as long as you want, which is a wonderful experience.

Getting Started

The Male Anatomy

The easiest way to find the prostate is to insert a lubricated finger into the anus and then curl it towards the navel. The prostate is about 3-4” in from the opening of the anus, but don’t worry if your finger is shorter than that. If you insert it all the way and then press in further, the flexibility of the pelvic floor will let you reach a bit more.

You’re looking for a round object that feels like a ripe plum. Don’t go poking for it- that can bruise the prostate just like it would bruise a plum. Instead, gently press along the midline of his body until you find it. The prostate fills with fluid during arousal, which makes it get bigger like a water balloon, so you might have an easier time finding it if you get him turned on first. There’s also a groove running down the prostate from top to bottom, and it’s possible to have your finger in that groove and not be able to feel anything. Try moving a little to the left or right and you’ll feel it more easily.

You can massage the prostate with a finger or two, just like the G-spot. Try making a “come here” motion, tapping, circling, or sliding in and out while pressing it. Just be sure to have short fingernails and remember: stroke, don’t poke. You can also massage his penis at the same time. It works best if you can keep your motions in sync, so if that’s difficult, either slow down until you can match them up or have him stroke himself and focus on his prostate.

For the guy on the receiving end, there are a few possible sensations to look for. Some guys feel amazing pleasure right away. If that happens for you, awesome! Some guys first notice that it feels like they need to urinate. That means that you’re on the spot, so dial the pressure down a bit. And some men say that they didn’t feel much of anything the first few times they tried it. It can take a little practice to tune into the sensations. One good way to do that is to combine prostate massage with a familiar pleasure like oral sex or a handjob. That gets your body used to the new experience and makes it more likely that the next time will be different.

Tools & Techniques

Black Dragon Gloves and The Aneros SPX

Wear a glove to keep things clean, and use plenty of lubricant. Silicone lubricants last longer than water-based lubes, though water-based products rinse off more easily in the shower. Use a thinner lube like Wet Platinum for a slick ride or try a thicker lube like System Jo Premium Anal Lubricant to give you a little extra cushioning. Go nice and slow, and be sure to get your partner turned on before going in. Arousal makes penetration much easier. Remember – you need to seduce the ass.

Most men find that a dildo with a curved shaft or a bulbous head works really well for prostate massage. Aim the curve towards your navel in order to reach the spot. You can experiment with different angles, amounts of pressure, sliding in and out, or jostling the dildo so it vibrates on your prostate. And of course, women can wear a harness to make penetration easy.

There are lots of vibrators that make the prostate feel fantastic. Look for a toy that focuses the vibration at the tip, and make sure it has a wide base to keep it from slipping all the way in and getting lost.

If you want an amazing, hands-free prostate massage, try one of the Aneros massagers. The upward curved end of the base goes towards the front of the body, with the tip resting on the bulb of the penis (behind the testicles). When you have it in place, with the shaft pressing into the prostate, contract your pelvic floor. The most effective way to do that is to squeeze the muscles that make your erection bounce. Every time you do, the anus will pull up and the shaft of the Aneros will lever forward into your prostate for an amazing time.

You can use the Aneros during solo sex, while receiving a blowjob, or even during intercourse, as long as it’s free to move. The MGX is a great one to start with because the hard plastic makes it easy to work with. If you do your Kegel exercises and have good control over your muscles, the Eupho is incredible, but it’s less effective if you aren’t as practiced with your Kegels.

Some buttplugs work for prostate massage, especially if they can be angled towards the navel. They don’t move as much on their own, but if you like firm, constant pressure, they’re a good bet.

Health & Safety

Prostate Pleasure by Charlie Glickman

Here are two important toy tips. One: make sure that your anal toys are smooth. There are lots of G-spot toys with bumps and ridges that feel great in the vagina, but they’ll be too rough for anal use. Two: get something that’s non-porous and easy to clean, like silicone, or cover your toy with a condom all the way over the base. Hygiene is extra important for anal play, for obvious reasons.

Some men enjoy having an orgasm during prostate play, while others like it as a warm-up before switching to something else as they get close. There’s no right or wrong here, so try different things to see what feels best to you. It’s pretty common for men to ejaculate more during a prostate massage, since you’re squeezing more of the fluid out of the gland.

With all of the amazing pleasure potential in the prostate, it’s good to know that it may also have some important health benefits. Massage increases blood flow, releases muscle tension, helps break up blockages and trapped fluid in the gland, and can even improve some of the symptoms associated with an enlarged prostate (benign prostatic hyperplasia). However, if you think you may have a prostate health concern, please get checked out by a doctor.

Looking for more info about prostate massage, pegging, and how to have explosive orgasms? Check out The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure: Erotic Exploration for Men and Their Partners by Charlie Glickman PhD and Aislinn Emirzian. It has all the tips and tools you need to get the most fun out of your prostate!

First Impressions of Top Male Masturbation Toys

November is increasingly identified with Movember, the men’s health fundraiser where men grow mustaches through the entire month. In fact, Movember is the biggest men’s health charity.

True story: Having a wank is great for your health. A 2003 Australian study found that men who jerk off more than five times in a week reduced their risk of prostate cancer by one third. What’s more, contrary to what many men believe, masturbation decreases your risk of erectile dysfunction, as well as making it easier for you to stay hard longer. There are other benefits, like a boosted immune system and elevated mood.

But are you still pulling pud the old fashioned way? You shouldn’t be. Male masturbation devices are cheaper — and more effective — than ever. Here’s a roundup of some of the latest and greatest in the world of men’s jackoff toys.

VibeRite Personal Massager $44.95 ON SALE: $29.95
The VibeRite Personal Massager is a lot like the famous Hitachi Magic Wand, except it’s lighter and does not need to be plugged in for you to use it. It has seven speeds and a soft silicone head with a bendable neck.

The great thing about this is that it’s a toy that a man and a woman can use. It doesn’t require an attachment for a penis, but the Hammerhead isn’t a bad investment if you have VibeRite. This is a multi-textured attachment made out of super stretchy TPR which mean it will fit men of just about any size.

VibeRite Hammerhead Male Attachment $14.50 ON SALE: $9.50
This one wasn’t a favorite of mine for personal use, but it was great to use with my wife. The Hammerhead comes on and off very easily, making it simple to switch between me using it and her using it.
Tenga Flip Hole Masturbator $99.00
The Tenga Flip Hole Masturbator has everything that you’re going to need from a male masturbator: It’s multi-textured, has buttons on the outside that allow you to apply vacuum pressure to different areas of the penis. You get three different kinds of lube with it and it opens to let you easily apply lube, as well as clean the Tenga.

I found that this one is good for those special occasions when you have enough time to yourself to turn the lights down low, light some candles and really spend some time getting down to business. I didn’t like it as much for a quick wank, but it did beat just about everything else in the “long and slow” department.

Oxballs Cocksling $24.00
What’s better than a wank? A wank with a cock ring. The Oxballs Cocksling is their best selling product and, hands down, one of the best cock rings I have ever used… and I am definitely a man who knows his cock rings. The Oxballs Cocksling has a cock ring and a ball stretcher all in one. It’s incredibly soft and stretchy, made of TPR, and warms to your body the longer that you wear it. It’s also made right here in the USA. Wear it when you’re jerking or wear it when you’re fucking. It’s great either way!

This is definitely on the short “if you only have one cock ring, you need this one” list. It does everything that you need a cock ring to do.

Fat Boy Cock Sheath $44.95-$49.95
This is another one that can be just as fun to use with other people as you do yourself. It’s not just a masturbation device, it’s also a cock enlarger and extender. Made from super soft Silaskin, a blend of TPR and silicone, it’s 7” in total length, stretches easily and will fit on just about any man.

I didn’t care for this one. It felt weird to handle in my hand as a masturbation device, and my wife wasn’t going to let it anywhere near her vagina.

Summer Latex Survival Guide

Look, I know what you’re thinking. Summer is upon us and it’s already hot as hell outside, why on earth would anyone want to put on a latex catsuit right now??

Stockroom Syren Athena Fatale Latex CatsuitIt’s true, latex is not the easiest material to wear. You have to slather yourself in slippery silicone lube then push yourself into a giant condom that seems to be about two inches too small. It’s a process I often describe as ‘squeezing your way into a Trojan, when you really need a Magnum’. Once you’ve maneuvered your way into your second skin, things can heat up quickly since the latex doesn’t breathe. I still remember the first time I wore a latex catsuit. It was spring and already considerably warm in Texas, and while the AC in my dungeon did it’s best it was no match for the combination of video lights, a latex catsuit, and an enthusiastic slave beating. About 20 minutes into the shoot I felt the sweat begin to puddle in my boots, and before long a steady stream poured out at the wrists whenever I lowered my arms. While it was great fun to make my slave drink my salty, sweaty offerings, I nonetheless learned a very important lesson that day – latex makes you sweat. Stripping off sweaty latex is one of my absolute least favorite things in life.

Stockroom Syren Athena Fatale Latex Catsuit 2That Halloween, my latex catsuit taught me another lesson – if it’s cold outside, you will be cold in latex. And your goose bumps will totally show through your latex, and you can feel the bumps as well. But even when it is 30 degrees outside, your latex will warm up very quickly once you are out of the cold and back in the warmth. However this party was anything but warm. It was a notoriously filthy and debaucherous warehouse party with no heat, and by the time I got home the thought of peeling off my dirty Disturbathon latex (which was now stuck to my body for lack of lube) and allowing the last of my body heat to escape was unbearable. So I turned on the shower and climbed in, catsuit and all. It was absolutely glorious. The warm water splashed across my latex covered body and ran down my legs, warming me and massaging me as it beaded and bounced off of my protective covering, dancing like rain on a windshield. I spent at least 15 minutes playing in the shower, rinsing and rubbing every inch of my slick shiny catsuit before finally unzipping it just enough to let the water slip inside. It began to flow down my body, lubricating and gently separating my skin from the latex that had become a part of me. The feeling was pure ecstasy.

And thus began my love of latex and water.

Stockroom Syren Ulorin Vex Latex CatsuitPeople often describe latex as a ‘second skin’ because when you wear it, it doesn’t just fit itself to your form, it becomes one with your body. You still feel temperatures and sensations, but you’re feeling them through a thin layer of rubber, much like a condom. Latex is an exceptional conductor of heat and cold, and this opens up a range of possibilities for temperature and sensation play. Cold water splashed over latex can be absolutely exhilarating, especially if you are literally stewing in your own juices. You feel every single drop that touches your latex, whether it is a tiny splash or a flowing stream. Is it any wonder latex catsuits and even rubber hoods are so popular at fetish pool parties? Skimming through the water, feeling the cool liquid run over the latex that encases you, it’s a feeling unlike anything else. The waterslide at the annual Kink In The Caribbean gatherings is always spitting out one latex lover after another; they go slipping and sliding at the speed of lube until at last they are tossed in to the pool with the rest of the rubber clad rousers. A simple Slip & Slide in your back yard works just as well if a trip to Jamaica isn’t in your immediate future.

So this summer, don’t be afraid to slip in to your favorite rubber catsuit, work up a dripping sweat, then treat yourself to a dip in the pool, a fetish frolic in the lawn sprinkler, or just a nice, relaxing latex shower. Let the water seep under your latex and over your skin as you rub your sleek and slippery body with pleasure. Tease your latex encased playmate by splashing or trickling warm then cold water over them. A little goes a long way! Just make sure to stay hydrated and always wash your latex after wearing so the party can continue all summer long. And for the love of all things shiny, never take off a sweaty catsuit outside of the shower again!

Tips for staying cool in latex:

• Stay out of the sun as much as possible. Direct sunlight will heat latex very quickly and can damage it over time.

• Drink plenty of water. Latex encourages sweating and dehydration can occur quickly, especially if alcohol is involved.

• Hold an ice cube in your mouth to help regulate body temperature and prevent overheating.

• Wet latex is cooler than dry latex. If your latex gets too warm, hop in the pool or pour some cool water on yourself. The breeze will continue to cool the water while your latex dries, which won’t take long.

• If you begin to feel dizzy, lightheaded, or overly warm, seek shade immediately, drink water, and remove your latex.

Lube and Toy Cleaner Review: Getting Slippery with Frolic & Swiss Navy!

Thanks to Stockroom, I had the pleasure of testing both Swiss Navy’s All Natural Water Based Lube, and Frolic’s Sex Toy Lubricant for Women (added bonus: Swiss Navy’s Toy and Body Cleaner).  Do you know how hard it can be to conduct a lube test?  While, of course, using it during sex is ideal (two birds, one stone, etc.), the heat of the moment can get in the way of a evaluating a lube properly.  How can you concentrate on the details when the, uh, test run is going distractingly well?  It is too easy to fall into the what thing feels  good where instead of focusing on consistency and texture!

Swiss Navy’s biggest selling point for this lubricant is that it is all natural, as well as glycerin, paraben, and sugar free.  Swiss Navy has smart packaging that I absolutely loved; the lube has a locking pump that dispenses the lube quickly, easily, and tidily.  All you need is one available hand to get what you need!

Unfortunately, none of those positive qualities could compensate the texture of the lube itself, which was thin and extremely runny.  When using it with the iRide, it dissolved far too quickly, leaving me without the extra lubrication I wanted (especially when I was struggling to get comfortable with a complicated toy).  The swift absorption didn’t affect much when I was using it with a partner, fortunately, but the mess it made was huge!  The Swiss Navy lube is a big sloppy mess that doesn’t have any stick at all.

Although I do have sensitive skin, I haven’t had any problems with most of the lubes I’ve tried in the past.  As long as they don’t have a disastrous “massage heat” element to them, the soft parts of me are just fine.  That said, perhaps the Swiss Navy lube would be better suited to someone who has a history of sensitivity toward other types of water based lube; I could see what I perceive as major downsides being less important for someone who has fewer lubricant options overall.

For as disappointed as I was with Swiss Navy’s All Natural Water-Based Lube, their toy and body cleaner is divine. It’s anti-bacterial, anti-fungal, and anti-viral.  Like the lube, it comes in a delightfully simple, attractive package that makes the product easy to use.  Perhaps this is TMI (is there such a thing in a sex toy review?), but I used it to clean a toy of mine after being on my period, and it worked quickly to leave my toy clean, fresh, and new.

I also had the opportunity to try out Frolic’s Specialty Toy Lubricant for Women.  Although this lube is guilty of a somewhat infuriating marketing tactic (Whenever I encounter a product that is “specifically for women,” I find it immediately suspicious, especially in cases where it seems genital specific…I mean, hello, not all women have vaginas and not all vagina owners are women), I found it to be far more to my liking.

Frolic not only has the same easy pump as Swiss Navy, but has a nifty little cap that fits over the spout, and is also a water based, glycerin free lubricant.  The texture is wonderfully silky, and it held up well when using it both on the iRide and with a partner.  There was no issue at all in terms of lasting power, unlike the Swiss Navy lube.  Naturally, it was absorbed with use, but since it didn’t start off quite so thin, it wasn’t devastatingly noticeable. Frolic also has mastered that wonderful balance between thick and slick; the lube is not runny, but just sticky enough to stay where I needed it to be.

While the Swiss Navy lube is being relegated to the runner up position, Frolic has become a new favorite, and now lives beside my bed.  If you are looking for a silky water based lube, Frolic is worth a shot.  If there are those of you out there who have tried the Swiss Navy lube and felt differently about it, I’d love to hear from you in the comments!  Whenever I am dissatisfied with a product, especially for reasons that seem fussy, I am always interested in hearing about others’ experiences.

Even though National Masturbation Month is over, there is still plenty of time to get wet and frolic freely, so buy one of these babies and get on it! [And don't forget to pick up Swiss Navy's Toy and Body Cleaner for quick and easy clean up!]

Tenga Flip Hole Male Masturbator Video Review

When it comes to male masturbators, there are a lot of options and choosing the perfect one for you can be a lot of trial and error. In this review, I’ll explain why the unique and fun to use Tenga Flip Hole is one of my personal favorites! This toy, as well as other cock toys, vibrators, lube and more are available now as part of the Stockroom Masturbation Month Sale!


This is one of my favorite sex toys to demonstrate for people that are not familiar with male masturbators for a few reasons.

  • It’s freaking weird to look at

  • It is counter intuitive to use and has a learning curve

  • I jokingly tell people, after I open it up, that this is what a woman’s vagina looks like on the inside (really check this out, it looks like some Lovecraftian terror Elder Thing)

  • It is the best male masturbator out today (sorry Fleshlight)

  • And last, but certainly not least, it feels better than ass, mouth or pussy

For starters, this has a weird design that has two parts. The first part is a “U” shaped outer case that fits into a couple of grooves that takes some practice to get used to. The second part is the main toy itself, a hard plastic case with three buttons and a soft Thermo Plastic Elastomer (T.P.E.) squishy rubber-like material that is shaped like balls, nubblies and thingamabobs. Once you have figured out the basic mechanics of this toy, it works beautifully.

Put on your favorite porn. Get some lube. This toy does come with three bottles of lube that get used up fast; Mild, Real, and Wild Water based lubes made by Tenga. While toys are their strong suit, their lube is average at best. Any water based lube works great, I have also used silicone lube with my toy but I can’t promise that it won’t degrade the T.P.E after time. So use the water-based lube to be safe.

Next, lube up the outer rim and the inside of the toy. To suck the lube down the length of the Flip Hole, press the bottom button to create a vacuum and draw down the lube. Speaking of buttons, that is one of the best features of this toy. Starting from the point farthest away from the hole at the top, the bottom button is used to create suction and stimulate the head of the cock. The middle button is for suction. The top button is for a hard squeeze.

The Flip Hole comes in four colors; Black, Red, White and Silver. The differences are in the softness of the T.P.E. on the inside and the texture of the internal workings. I recommend the Black one. It feels the best of all four and it it is the only that isn’t too tight of a squeeze.

When you’re done, take the Flip Hole to the sink, remove the “U” shaped outer casing, unfold it in half then rinse out your baby batter and lube santorum. Clean the ridges and edges extra well and then let it air dry. Use a little cornstarch to add longevity. This thing is good for around 50 uses.

Pros of the Tenga Flip Hole
  • Best feeling sex toy out today, it really is amazing
  • Three button pressure/vacuum control
  • Lasts longer than manufacturer suggests (I beat the hell out of mine and I’m well over 200 uses)
  • Super tight but in a good way

Cons of the Tenga Flip Hole
  • Difficult to clean
  • Has a learning curve to use (especially the outer case)
  • The lube it comes with is so-so

If you liked this review check out the video I made that goes along with it. This toy is the best high end toy available for penises. It feels great and lasts a lot longer than they say. Of all the toys on the market today this is the one I advise all my male friends to buy for themselves or have a significant other purchase one for them as a gift.

Easy Ways To Increase Your Orgasm Intensity

As a longtime practitioner of tease and denial (both giving and receiving, on film and in my personal life) I’ve realized that being able to choose when you come helps you not just in terms of obeying a master or mistress, but in more traditional aspects of your sex life as well. The ability to do so takes the sort of practice that tease and denial or edging yourself can prepare you for.
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“Edging” (not to be confused with edge play) is the practice of taking yourself to the brink of orgasm and then backing down just before you come. In doing so, you maintain a high level of sexual arousal for an extended period of time and when you do finally have an orgasm, it can be very intense.

Chances are, you guys already partake in “gentleman’s time”, so edging while you are doing it isn’t too large of a leap. If you want to see results, you have to put the time in and keep a few things in mind:

Lubricate
If you intend to go the distance you’ll need to reapply at some point and hunting for it will distract you in the moment. Choose a lubricant that doesn’t break down too quickly or become sticky (I’m a fan of Pjur Aqua). Only use something that’s actually intended for this sort of thing; using lotion (or soap in the shower) can actually cause skin issues that can end up being quite severe. Attempting to edge dry can cause chaffing; if you prefer a slightly more masochistic approach then perhaps that’s not a big deal, but I recommend that you use lubrication.

Time It Right
Choose a time and place where you can focus with no interruptions or distractions. If you want to really learn how to make it last, you shouldn’t worry yourself over having to abruptly wrap things up. Setting a time limit is fine though and tracking measurable results will be easier for some people.

Bring A Toy
Toys will make this even more challenging and enjoyable; a variable speed vibrator works very well for both men and women because it’ll stimulate you in a very different way than when it happens manually. The VibeRite wand has lots of speed options and is pretty gender neutral, so even if the idea of buying a vibrator for yourself is intimidating for some of you guys, you can find something approachable that won’t make you feel like you are sword fighting. You can also try toys like the Tantus vibrating cock ring or any number of anal toys (if it seems taboo to you it’ll probably add to the thrill, or it least it does for me).

Play With The Senses
If you’d like to make the experience a little kinkier, you can include restraints, blindfolds or plugs into your edging sessions. For many people the sense of touch is heightened when you take away the sense of sound or sight, so adding sensory deprivation to your session may make even more enjoyable. Adult films can also make this more of a challenge; pop in your favorite scene and see what it’s like to try and keep control while all your buttons are being pressed.

Pay Attention
Your goal in edging yourself is to get as close to orgasm as possible, but in the beginning that might be difficult to judge, so I recommend in the beginning that you take yourself about three quarters of the way to orgasm and come to a stop. Put your hands in the air and hold them there. Count to thirty before you touch yourself again, and push little closer the next time around. Do this over and over again, but take care not to ruin your own orgasm!

Slow It Down
From personal experience I can tell you guys that methods such as flicking or pinching the tip that will sober your cock up a bit. For others, ice is a good solution. Learning to tighten your PC muscles with Kegel exercises will also help you stop when things are happening too fast. Don’t underestimate the ability of the mind to find a solution to cool you down too; find something that’ll bring you back down to earth without completely ruining the mood.

Bring A Friend
If you want to try edging yourself during sex with a partner, stop when you are close to coming and focus completely on their pleasure. Using some cooling down time to focus on the person(s) you are in bed with can give you an opportunity to collect yourself. Sex isn’t (necessarily) a marathon, but it should last for as long as you want it to without coming to an abrupt end. Edging is a great way to improve your ability to do that.

Having someone else edge you can be fun as well; Athena Fatale gave some great suggestions in her post about tease and denial that can be put to use in edging with a partner, so I suggest you give it a read. She also gave some great toy recommendations that you can use either alone or with a partner.

Whether it is for self-satisfaction or to be a better lover, edging is a good way to give greater purpose to masturbation. The result is worth the effort and you’ll enjoy the process as well.

G-Vibe Video Review: Enter To Win One Of Your Own!

Ducky Doolittle shares her impressions of the G-Vibe in this fun, informative video review! Don’t just take her word for it! Enter the contest for a chance to win one for yourself! (see contest details below)




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iRide Vibrator Review: Get In The Saddle

The iRide Vibrator from Doc Johnson is the new toy in town, and is appropriately named: it is a bubble-gum pink, saddle-shaped vibrator made to be literally ridden.

The toy has two separate vibrating components, each of which have their own independent on/off button, and buzz to varying speeds and intensities. One of the vibrators is a 4-inch phallus shaped insertable and the other is a rounded bump intended for clitorial stimulation. The toy’s body is curved so that the rider can hop on and rock their hips with greater ease… it’s like a rocking chair for your genitals!

Test out your own orgasmic limits with the iRide VibratorMasturbation doesn’t always have to be about replacing sex, but on occasion, it’s nice to have a toy that gets close to simulating actual sex acts. Those who want their self-lovin’ to resemble jumping on top of someone sexy may find this to be a perfect option for them. At a little more than a foot long and five inches wide, the iRide vibrator feels sturdy and meant for rough’n’tumble use.

Unlike typical vibrators, the iRide can be a completely hands-free experience, meaning that it has the potential to be incorporated into play with a partner too! Imagine rocking back and forth on a vibrating toy, being stimulated while finding other, more important uses for your mouth and fingers…

The box has a few cute femme-bodied silhouettes demonstrating various positions that work well with the vibrator, from placing it on a chair to spooning with it between your legs. I made sure to take a few joy rides on the buzzing rocker so I could test out how it worked in the positions recommended and on different surfaces.

FIRST TEST RUN

SURFACE: Cushy leather couch

POSITION: Sitting right on top, using the probe vaginally

SIDENOTE: Using “probe” and “vaginally” in the same phrase makes me feel like I should be discussing alien abduction instead of a sex toy!

LUBE: Frolic, a water-based toy lubricant meant for women

NOTES: This initial test run was a complete bust!

After boisterously bouncing on the couch for a minute or two, I nearly took a header off the edge! After catching myself and readjusting, I tried again, but the soft surface below the vibrator had too much give to assist in creating necessary friction.

After a second near fall, I decided to give up on this try, get a glass of wine, and jerk off with my hand instead. I mean, it’s National Masturbation Month… not getting myself off in the end would be criminal.

SUCCESSFUL? No.

SECOND TEST RUN

SURFACE: Oddly angular chaise with a firm surface, and then the floor next to it

POSITION: Sitting right on top, using the probe vaginally…again

LUBE: Swiss Navy, a water-based all natural lubricant

NOTES: Wow, this was much better!

Finding the right angle on the iRide is no easy task! It took way longer than I wanted to find that sweet spot where I was receiving juuuuuust the right amount of sensation from both the insertable and the rounded clit vibe. The process was a bit like getting to know a new lover, only without the added benefits of body warmth: Even the faintest sign of an orgasm in the distance was touch and go until I found the right angles.

That said, the firmer surface made a huge difference in using the toy. Once I hit the right groove, I could appreciate the intensity of both of the vibrators, as well as the curve of the probe. The shape of the toy, both the insertable portion and the saddle itself, make up for how short the probe itself is.

One orgasm was not enough; I had put in so much work into getting that one that it only seemed worth it to try for another, even though my clit was getting slightly sore from the unfortunately inflexible bump vibe. While they did a fantastic job creating a toy that can handle the buck of sizable hips, the clit vibe was way too inflexible, and after some time, fell too far on the side of pain rather than pleasure. The time spent figuring out the best way to work with the iRide paid off though, and it was easy to get back into the groove.

SUCCESSFUL? Yes! Multiple orgasm success!

THIRD TEST RUN

SURFACE: The bed, first alone, and then with a partner

POSITION: Spooning! And then being fucked with it.

LUBE: Frolic again. It’s a new favorite.

NOTES: As a person who needs intense contact with the vibes I use, spooning wasn’t the position for me. Using it with a partner was mostly fun, especially since we could make out while I got started on it. That hands-free thing really can be a benefit! The way the saddle is shaped pretty much blocks off all genital access to another person, though, and when my partner wanted to get involved, they grabbed the toy and used it against me, which wasn’t bad. The iRide definitely wasn’t the star of the show, though.

SUCCESSFUL? Sure. It didn’t lead to orgasm, but was a pretty decent tool as a part of foreplay.

CONCLUSION:

The iRide Vibrator is definitely in a class of its own amongst toys that can be ridden while still being easy to store and not too costly. It was easy to clean (I cannot recommend Swiss Navy’s toy cleaner enough), too.

My complaints are mostly that the clit bump is not nearly soft enough, and that…well, I’m a little lazy when it comes to jerking off! It’s a little fussy, but the iRide is made well and adds a different vibe to the masturbatory experience. While I don’t think the iRide is practical for day-to-day diddling, the toy would be fantastic for “special occasion” usage. As long as you are willing to put the work in, the iRide will make your toes curl as your hips rock.

Wanna ride? Pick up your own iRide Vibrator and save over $20, only through May 31, 2013!

Tease & Denial, Part Two: The Agony & Ecstasy Of Denial

Last week the gorgeous Athena Fatale graced us with her musings on teasing aspect of tease and denial. This week, she finishes it off with some thoughts and hints on denial. Will it be a happy ending, or a frustrating brush off? Read on for the thrilling conclusion!

Do you ever want something so bad you can’t stand it? You fantasize about it and obsess over it, it consumes your every thought and motivates your every action until finally, at long last, you either achieve success or suffer a crushing defeat. If you reach your goal, the satisfaction is so sweet that you can revel in it for days, replaying the moment in your mind and reliving the victory over and over. A crushing defeat can heighten your determination to be successful in your next venture, pushing you to greater and more satisfying accomplishments that far surpassed your original goal.

Sex can be much the same way. Whether you are enjoying sex alone or with a partner, or partners, a little tease and denial really ratchets up the intensity. We are sexual creatures, and once our senses are aroused it is hard to turn back. Anyone who’s ever heard a boy carry on about ‘blue balls’ knows that they certainly don’t enjoy turning back. That doesn’t mean you can’t have fun insisting they do! As a Dominatrix, I find that there is little my slaves won’t do if they think there might be a chance for an orgasm in their future. Sometimes I like to play a little game where I make my slave stroke himself to the brink of orgasm then stop abruptly and assume the position for 20 strokes with the cane, with additional strikes given for whining or complaining. We repeat this until I am satisfied he can no longer take any more, and I most likely send him on his way with a swollen ass and swollen, aching balls. This is great fun for me, a sadistic game of give and take for my own personal amusement.

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Tease and denial can be quite sadistic even without the added caning. Is there anything worse than being on the verge of orgasm but unable to achieve climax? I think not. Vibrators can be just the thing to push you or your partner over the edge, or in this case just close enough to almost go over… but not until you say so. One of my favorite vibrators on the market right now is the VibeRite from KinkLab. It’s incredibly powerful and offers 7 speed settings so you can control just how much, or how little vibration your partner receives. Use it externally to warm things up, then add one of the attachments that provide G-spot or P-spot stimulation to take the sexual intensity to the next level. Many people can climax quickly with a VibeRite, so switch to a low setting and light strokes to prevent an unintended orgasm.

Just the tip, he says? Stockroom Athena Fatale Wartenberg PinwheelStockroom Fun Factory Cobra Libre Male Masturbator VibratorWe’ve all heard that before. Now thanks to the Cobra Libre by Fun Factory,’just the tip’ is all he’ll get! This male masturbator is designed to stimulate the most sensitive part of the penis – the head. Use the vibration settings to work your partner in to a frustrated frenzy then negotiate your terms for letting them release. Since this toy is specifically designed to stimulate only the glans and the frenulum, it leaves the lower shaft and testicles free for additional stimulation. Whether that additional stimulation is painful or pleasurable depends on you. Use your hands and mouth if you’re feeling nice, or add some clothespins or a prickly Wartenberg Pinwheel if you’re not! Mix it up to keep your partner on their toes and ready to explode from frustration.

Tips for delaying or denying orgasm:

• Monitor breathing and body language. Watch for signs of pleasure and allow positive reactions to continue for brief periods of time and increase in intensity, but stop before climax is reached. Ask your partner to verbally communicate when they are close to orgasm if needed.

• Have your partner rate their arousal on a scale of 1-10, with 10 being an orgasm. Instruct them to masturbate themselves to a 7 before stopping, then an 8, then 9. Each time they come closer to their goal it becomes more and more frustrating, and increasingly difficult to stop. Sexual frustration is the name of this game. Enjoy it, you sick bastard.

• Bondage is perfect for tease and denial. Tie your partner to the bed and use a vibrator or masturbator to bring them close to orgasm, then stop and make them beg for more. Better yet, make them earn it!

• When incorporating rope bondage in your tease and denial play, give your partner just enough slack to masturbate with one hand. When they get close to orgasm, pull the rope taught so that they can no longer reach their fun parts. Laughing at their discomfort is optional.

• Counter an approaching orgasm with a shock to the system. Ice cubes, nipple clamps, a wooden paddle – all of these things can disrupt the pleasure of sensory overload and ruin an orgasm before it’s time.

• Assign your partner a task to complete when they are close to orgasm. It’s hard to climax when you have to recite the Pledge Of Allegiance, or sing the Star Spangled Banner.

It’s human nature to want what we can’t have, and there is nothing we want more than sexual gratification. A greedy pig will gobble up whatever is in front of him without ever taking the time to really appreciate what he has. Your orgasm is the food that nourishes you; take your time and enjoy it to it’s fullest. Savor each delicious bite, let it fill every inch of your body. Because if you don’t eat your dinner, someone just might take it away.