When you’ve just written a novel that includes a cult that transforms its members into vampires through plastic surgery, a murderous dominatrix, and homages to Fifty Shades of Grey, where do you go to make your grand and glorious debut? If the answer isn’t obvious to everyone, it was to Laura Lee Bahr: On Friday, April 29, Bahr is coming to The Stockroom to throw a huge party for her brand new opus, Long-Form Religious Porn. Hosted by Lenora Claire, the only art curator (that we know of) to stage an exhibition of Golden Girls erotica, the evening is going to be a celebration of both the literary and the carnal, including drag by The Meatball Queen and live mannequins outfitted in The Stockroom’s finest latex and leather fashions. If you’re not enticed yet, read a little of what Bahr told us about her book:
We may be living in the Golden Age of Dirty Talk. Not only is porn of all varieties easily available, but millions of people are carrying their phone with them everywhere they go — fully equipped with high-tech photo and video capabilities. We have more opportunities to get up to long-distance hanky-panky than any time since we traded in Morse code for the telephone.
But unfortunately, talking dirty is a lot harder that it sounds at first — and that’s where Ashley Manta comes in. A former phone sex operator who had to overcome her own fears of talking dirty, she’ll be coming to Stockroom University this weekend for a course on how to limber up your filthy tongue to say exactly the things that you want it to say. We dialed her up for a few early tips on good phone sex.
The first week of May, The Stockroom will be joining Plunge Fetish at the legendary Hedonism II resort in Jamaica for an entire week of sexy, kinky play. Of course, we always love showing off our gear and toys, but Plunge isn’t just another event; there are few events that allow participants to indulge in their kinkiest fantasies for an extended period of time without being bothered by the cares or judgement of the outside world.
Mistress Morgan Sterling
Many kinksters (and a lot of vanilla folks, too!) started their sensual explorations with the very simple game of “playing doctor” as kids. When you’re an adult, playing doctor becomes much more complicated. Medical play is a sophisticated, advanced form of BDSM, but along with its pleasures, it has unique risks. Mistress Morgan Sterling has loved doing medical play as both sub and domme for over twenty years; this weekend, she’s coming to Stockroom University to share her love and her skills with interested students. We talked with her about why she enjoys medical play herself, and what newcomers have to keep in mind to do it safely and pleasurably.
From left: Wry Mantione, Janet Hardy, and Kate Loree
This Saturday, poly educator Wry Mantione returns to Stockroom Hall with another one of his very popular Polytalk events, this time featuring two women who can only be described as rockstars of the non-monagamous community. Janet Hardy co-authored The Ethical Slut with Dossie Easton, which remains one of the must-reads for people considering consensual non-monogamy. Originally published in 1998, with a second edition released in 2009, for years it was the only widely-available book on building a polyamorous relationship. Since then, Hardy has written more books on a variety of topics, including her recent memoir, Girlfag.
Kate Loree is a licensed marriage and family therapist who’s become one of the few relationship professionals to speak publicly and frankly about alternative lifestyles. She has become a highly respected name among kinky and non-monagamous people in a field that often either pathologizes or ignores alternative sexualities. Wry spoke to us about these two women’s work, the upcoming event, and his own experiences living non-monogamously.
How do you become a quality dominant? Not just someone who can give orders and protocols or swing a whip, but a quality dominant who’s genuinely respected by your play partners. According to Sir Rucifer, there’s a lot more to it than buying gear and deciding on a safeword; every dominant is different, and success depends on finding your own style, not imitating the images you see in the media.
This Saturday, Rucifer is returning to Stockroom University to talk about how to find that top style that suits you best and create an environment that’s safe for both doms and subs.
Anya de Montigny
Most people nowadays have heard of tantra; far fewer could tell you what it actually is. Sex educator Anya de Montigny thinks that in the process of bringing tantra to the West, it became overly focused on hedonism in order to make it more marketable. But she thinks that focus also discarded many valuable elements of tantra that teach skills in building boundaries and connections to other people through sensual play and breath work.
On March 12, Anya will bring her ideas to Stockroom University in a workshop called “Dark Tantra: Honey on the Razor’s Edge.” We talked to her about what she thinks genuine tantra should be, and how it can be incorporated into BDSM.
This weekend marks the beginning of one of our favorite annual events: The Transgender Erotica Awards. This is the eight time around, and every single time, it’s been a fabulous, sexy celebration of a porn genre that often gets overlooked — if not openly despised.
This year, they’re taking the show a little further than before, by kicking it off with TEACon, a one-afternoon conference at Stockroom Hall. From 1-5 PM tomorrow, fans will have the opportunity to meet, schmooze with, and get signed photos from their favorite stars, including Foxxy, Michelle Austin, Eddie Wood, and Soldier Boi. While getting ready for the festivities, we talked to Grooby Marketing Director Kristel Penn, who’s put an incredible amount of effort into making everything happen, about what’s going to happen at TEACon, and where the inspiration came from.
It’s hard not to be impressed — or even just overwhelmed — by the list of people that you’ve got lined up to appear at TEACon. Can you give me an overview of what you’re planning to happen with all these stars in one room?
We have so many great performers scheduled throughout the day and they’re all really excited to meet and interact with their fans. We’ll have a media wall for ample photo ops and many of our performers will be signing headshots and selling other merchandise. Behind the scenes we have a really talented videographer named Isabel Dresler interviewing the performers as well, so there will be lots going on all afternoon.
On Saturday, Feb 27, Dr. Vixenne will come to Stockroom University to talk about a very popular — and very misunderstood — topic: Squirting. While ejaculation has typically been considered something that you can only do with a penis, people of all genders have been more and more interested in how to spray, squirt, or gush with a vagina. It can be a very beautiful, sexy thing, but also and extremely frustrating one because there are so many rumors, fetishes, and misconceptions surrounding squirting. As a prominent sexologist and educator, Dr. Vixenne will be helping Stockroom University students understand separate the myths from the facts. We asked her how to tell the difference between the two.
Female ejaculation has become increasingly popular, at least as something to aspire to or to try out. When somebody comes to a workshop like yours, what kind of myths do they bring with them, and what are the realities?
Some myths around squirting tend to be things like “Is it pee?” (It’s not.) There’s very little urea in “female” ejaculate, usually just what’s left in the urethra from the last time the person urinated. It’s actually very similar to “male” ejaculate, minus sperm, along with sugars.
Another misconception I hear a lot is along the lines of “Is it as explosive or dramatic as in adult films?” And certainly, there may be some people who are capable of ejaculating copious streams, but not everyone can, and remember — that’s movie magic with editing and whatnot. Sometimes, it simply a warm gush or trickle. Neither should be a value judgement. Both are awesome.
Mistress Melissa has been a highly active educator and community member in the BDSM community for over 23 years. Besides being an active volunteer in kink organizations across the country, she’s a professional dominant, a Santeria Spiritual Healer, and Energy Worker.
Energy play is a relatively obscure technique, even in BDSM communities. This weekend, Mistress Melissa will come to Stockroom University to talk about what it is, and how it can be used for intensely intimate and powerful scenes. We talked to her about some of the basics.