How to Be a Dominatrix: Hudsy Hawn On the Basics of FemDom

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You might recognize Hudsy Hawn from the four million views and counting popular Buzzfeed video, “The Try Guys TRY BDSM,”  or the E! Entertainment TV Special “The Real 50 Shades of Grey”or A & E’s “Storage Wars.” And while Hudsy has  shared her kink views in Playboy and Cosmopolitan, and on The Jason Ellis and Straight Talk with Ross Mathews radio shows, her real passion is to share sex positive education with all couples, and show the healing benefits BDSM can give to any relationship. We sat down with The Stockroom’s Head Mistress and listened to her insight on professional domination, her own path to becoming a dominatrix, and her upcoming Stockroom University course, FemDom 101.

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Without Consent, It’s Not Kink: The Lessons of the Ghomeshi Trial and the Virginia Court Verdict

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A few recent high-profile legal cases with implications for the BDSM community as a whole have stirred up some conversations around The Stockroom over fundamentals, best practices, and protocol for safe, sane, and consensual BDSM. We’re committed to being good leaders in the kink community, and that means talking about some subjects that may be uncomfortable, divisive, or controversial. While we strive to embrace a diversity of opinions and worldviews, we also feel duty-bound to address these issues as they relate to providing a healthy environment for all adults to explore the rich tapestry of human sexuality. That’s not possible without establishing a common ground of mutual respect and responsibility from which to operate.

While cases like the Jian Ghomeshi trial and the recent Virginia Court ruling against a student at George Mason University don’t apply directly to us, the issues they raise should be familiar to most kinky people. Whether you’re new to the scene or a deeply-entrenched veteran, these are topics worth thinking about and paying close attention to. We hope to expand on this conversation in the future both here and during some of our Stockroom University workshops in Los Angeles.

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Wry Mantione on Commitment, Communication, and Doing Polyamory Right

From left: Wry Mantione, Janet Hardy, and Kate Loree

From left: Wry Mantione, Janet Hardy, and Kate Loree

This Saturday, poly educator Wry Mantione returns to Stockroom Hall with another one of his very popular Polytalk events, this time featuring two women who can only be described as rockstars of the non-monagamous community. Janet Hardy co-authored The Ethical Slut with Dossie Easton, which remains one of the must-reads for people considering consensual non-monogamy. Originally published in 1998, with a second edition released in 2009, for years it was the only widely-available book on building a polyamorous relationship. Since then, Hardy has written more books on a variety of topics, including her recent memoir, Girlfag.

Kate Loree is a licensed marriage and family therapist who’s become one of the few relationship professionals to speak publicly and frankly about alternative lifestyles. She has become a highly respected name among kinky and non-monagamous people in a field that often either pathologizes or ignores alternative sexualities. Wry spoke to us about these two women’s work, the upcoming event, and his own experiences living non-monogamously.

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The Transgender Erotica Awards Kick Off the Weekend With TEACon at Stockroom Hall

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This weekend marks the beginning of one of our favorite annual events:  The Transgender Erotica Awards. This is the eight time around, and every single time, it’s been a fabulous, sexy celebration of a porn genre that often gets overlooked — if not openly despised.

This year, they’re taking the show a little further than before, by kicking it off with TEACon, a one-afternoon conference at Stockroom Hall. From 1-5 PM tomorrow, fans will have the opportunity to meet, schmooze with, and get signed photos from their favorite stars, including Foxxy, Michelle Austin, Eddie Wood, and Soldier Boi. While getting ready for the festivities, we talked to Grooby Marketing Director Kristel Penn, who’s put an incredible amount of effort into making everything happen, about what’s going to happen at TEACon, and where the inspiration came from.

It’s hard not to be impressed — or even just overwhelmed — by the list of people that you’ve got lined up to appear at TEACon. Can you give me an overview of what you’re planning to happen with all these stars in one room?

We have so many great performers scheduled throughout the day and they’re all really excited to meet and interact with their fans. We’ll have a media wall for ample photo ops and many of our performers will be signing headshots and selling other merchandise. Behind the scenes we have a really talented videographer named Isabel Dresler interviewing the performers as well, so there will be lots going on all afternoon.

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Pump It Up: How to Use Suction for Sexual Pleasure on Breasts, Labia, and Clits

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Suction-operated penis pumps are easily recognized by most people, but using pumps on breasts, nipples, vulvas, and other sensitive body parts shouldn’t be neglected or ignored. A little suction in the right place can be an extremely pleasurable experience no matter what your anatomy or gender, and a lot of imagination has gone into creating the tech to provide a whole slew of options.

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How Do You Give a Kinky Massage? Master Hercules Shows Us How at Stockroom University

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Can massage be kinky? For many, the instinctive answer would be a derisive snort; as soon as you say “kink,” the images that first come to mind for most people look like the stage gear for a concert by The Cramps circa 1987: black leather catsuits, chains, collars, whips, and wickedly shiny pointy things. Say “massage,” on the other hand, and you’re more likely to call forth images of gently sensual touching, perhaps enhanced with the application of organic coconut oil on your partner’s skin and some smooth jazz playing in the background.

A quick browse through our site will show just how much we love the black-leather-and-chains style of kink. But at the same time, if we’ve learned nothing else after twenty-seven years of designing and selling BDSM gear, it’s this: anything can be kinky, no matter how vanilla it looks on the surface.

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Want to Have Sex in Space? Neil Degrasse Tyson Says to Bring Lots of Leather Straps

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It turns out that The Stockroom is perfectly equipped for the bold pioneers who will one day be the first to have sex in space. Why? Because we carry a lot of straps and belts and restraining things. According to Neil Degrasse Tyson, who’s just about as smart as one human being can get, that’s exactly what you need.

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Full Disclosure: Lorde Wears Syren Latex in the “Magnets” Video for a Beautifully Sinister Look

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The video for “Magnets” by electronic duo Disclosure has gotten a lot of press and Internet eyeballs since its release, thanks in part to New Zealand pop star Lorde doing the vocals and taking center stage in the video itself. Lorde deserves props for her musical and dramatic work; in the video, she brings a forceful charisma to the role of the euphoric lover and the wronged woman that brings emotional resonance to the story as it plays out onscreen.

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Centuries of Whips, Chains, and Spankings: Snow Mercy Talks About the History of the Dominatrix

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The history of sex is fascinating precisely because so little of it is written down. We may know where George Washington was born and where he died, but we have little idea of what he liked to do in bed, or what he would have liked to do. For the most part, anyone who liked sex that wasn’t heterosexual ten-toes-up-ten-toes-down style has tried to avoid letting the rest of the world learn too much about it.

But difficult isn’t impossible, and this weekend, Snow Mercy comes to Stockroom University to teach some of that history. In The History of the Dominatrix, Snow is going to look at dominant women throughout the last 500 years. She gave us a little preview of the material that she’s going to cover:

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Tristan Taormino Opens Up About Polyamory

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As one of the most prominent sex educators on the scene today, Tristan Taormino wears many hats: Any bookstore with an even halfway decent sexuality section is sure to include several of the books that she’s written or edited, such as The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women or 50 Shades of Kink: An Introduction to BDSM. She’s been even more prolific as the producer and director of educational adult videos like The Expert Guide to Pegging.

Taormino’s work has addressed people of all genders and orientations, from vanilla to kinky. But she’s been especially important in expanding the possibilities for non-monogamous relationships. Before polyamory was something commonly discussed on mainstream sites like Slate or Newsweek, her 2008 book Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships served as a guide for people looking for alternatives to monogamy. Seven years later, it’s still one of the most-cited books by veterans and newcomers to polyamory.

This Saturday (November 15), Tristan Taormino will come to Stockroom Hall for an intensive four-hour workshop on how to create and sustain open relationships. We had a conversation with her about the workshop, the ethics of poly relationships, and how polyamory has changed since she wrote Opening Up.

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