You might recognize Hudsy Hawn from the four million views and counting popular Buzzfeed video, “The Try Guys TRY BDSM,” or the E! Entertainment TV Special “The Real 50 Shades of Grey”or A & E’s “Storage Wars.” And while Hudsy has shared her kink views in Playboy and Cosmopolitan, and on The Jason Ellis and Straight Talk with Ross Mathews radio shows, her real passion is to share sex positive education with all couples, and show the healing benefits BDSM can give to any relationship. We sat down with The Stockroom’s Head Mistress and listened to her insight on professional domination, her own path to becoming a dominatrix, and her upcoming Stockroom University course, FemDom 101.
Simon Blaise is an internationally-acclaimed BDSM educator and presenter who is also a vocal activist. As an attorney, Simon has been a pro bono advocate for members of BDSM communities who face legal problems because they love kink. In his own life, he’s challenged the gender norms of kink by being one of the first doms to come out as a transgender person who identifies as both male and female. On May 7, Simon will be giving a presentation at Stockroom University on how to make your kinky scenes more than just spanking or flogging sessions and become instead something that builds a profound spiritual and emotional connection between all involved. He spoke to us about what he loves about kink, and how it can be so much more.
We may be living in the Golden Age of Dirty Talk. Not only is porn of all varieties easily available, but millions of people are carrying their phone with them everywhere they go — fully equipped with high-tech photo and video capabilities. We have more opportunities to get up to long-distance hanky-panky than any time since we traded in Morse code for the telephone.
But unfortunately, talking dirty is a lot harder that it sounds at first — and that’s where Ashley Manta comes in. A former phone sex operator who had to overcome her own fears of talking dirty, she’ll be coming to Stockroom University this weekend for a course on how to limber up your filthy tongue to say exactly the things that you want it to say. We dialed her up for a few early tips on good phone sex.
Mistress Morgan Sterling
Many kinksters (and a lot of vanilla folks, too!) started their sensual explorations with the very simple game of “playing doctor” as kids. When you’re an adult, playing doctor becomes much more complicated. Medical play is a sophisticated, advanced form of BDSM, but along with its pleasures, it has unique risks. Mistress Morgan Sterling has loved doing medical play as both sub and domme for over twenty years; this weekend, she’s coming to Stockroom University to share her love and her skills with interested students. We talked with her about why she enjoys medical play herself, and what newcomers have to keep in mind to do it safely and pleasurably.
From left: Wry Mantione, Janet Hardy, and Kate Loree
This Saturday, poly educator Wry Mantione returns to Stockroom Hall with another one of his very popular Polytalk events, this time featuring two women who can only be described as rockstars of the non-monagamous community. Janet Hardy co-authored The Ethical Slut with Dossie Easton, which remains one of the must-reads for people considering consensual non-monogamy. Originally published in 1998, with a second edition released in 2009, for years it was the only widely-available book on building a polyamorous relationship. Since then, Hardy has written more books on a variety of topics, including her recent memoir, Girlfag.
Kate Loree is a licensed marriage and family therapist who’s become one of the few relationship professionals to speak publicly and frankly about alternative lifestyles. She has become a highly respected name among kinky and non-monagamous people in a field that often either pathologizes or ignores alternative sexualities. Wry spoke to us about these two women’s work, the upcoming event, and his own experiences living non-monogamously.
How do you become a quality dominant? Not just someone who can give orders and protocols or swing a whip, but a quality dominant who’s genuinely respected by your play partners. According to Sir Rucifer, there’s a lot more to it than buying gear and deciding on a safeword; every dominant is different, and success depends on finding your own style, not imitating the images you see in the media.
This Saturday, Rucifer is returning to Stockroom University to talk about how to find that top style that suits you best and create an environment that’s safe for both doms and subs.
Anya de Montigny
Most people nowadays have heard of tantra; far fewer could tell you what it actually is. Sex educator Anya de Montigny thinks that in the process of bringing tantra to the West, it became overly focused on hedonism in order to make it more marketable. But she thinks that focus also discarded many valuable elements of tantra that teach skills in building boundaries and connections to other people through sensual play and breath work.
On March 12, Anya will bring her ideas to Stockroom University in a workshop called “Dark Tantra: Honey on the Razor’s Edge.” We talked to her about what she thinks genuine tantra should be, and how it can be incorporated into BDSM.
On Saturday, Feb 27, Dr. Vixenne will come to Stockroom University to talk about a very popular — and very misunderstood — topic: Squirting. While ejaculation has typically been considered something that you can only do with a penis, people of all genders have been more and more interested in how to spray, squirt, or gush with a vagina. It can be a very beautiful, sexy thing, but also and extremely frustrating one because there are so many rumors, fetishes, and misconceptions surrounding squirting. As a prominent sexologist and educator, Dr. Vixenne will be helping Stockroom University students understand separate the myths from the facts. We asked her how to tell the difference between the two.
Female ejaculation has become increasingly popular, at least as something to aspire to or to try out. When somebody comes to a workshop like yours, what kind of myths do they bring with them, and what are the realities?
Some myths around squirting tend to be things like “Is it pee?” (It’s not.) There’s very little urea in “female” ejaculate, usually just what’s left in the urethra from the last time the person urinated. It’s actually very similar to “male” ejaculate, minus sperm, along with sugars.
Another misconception I hear a lot is along the lines of “Is it as explosive or dramatic as in adult films?” And certainly, there may be some people who are capable of ejaculating copious streams, but not everyone can, and remember — that’s movie magic with editing and whatnot. Sometimes, it simply a warm gush or trickle. Neither should be a value judgement. Both are awesome.
Mistress Melissa has been a highly active educator and community member in the BDSM community for over 23 years. Besides being an active volunteer in kink organizations across the country, she’s a professional dominant, a Santeria Spiritual Healer, and Energy Worker.
Energy play is a relatively obscure technique, even in BDSM communities. This weekend, Mistress Melissa will come to Stockroom University to talk about what it is, and how it can be used for intensely intimate and powerful scenes. We talked to her about some of the basics.
Can massage be kinky? For many, the instinctive answer would be a derisive snort; as soon as you say “kink,” the images that first come to mind for most people look like the stage gear for a concert by The Cramps circa 1987: black leather catsuits, chains, collars, whips, and wickedly shiny pointy things. Say “massage,” on the other hand, and you’re more likely to call forth images of gently sensual touching, perhaps enhanced with the application of organic coconut oil on your partner’s skin and some smooth jazz playing in the background.
A quick browse through our site will show just how much we love the black-leather-and-chains style of kink. But at the same time, if we’ve learned nothing else after twenty-seven years of designing and selling BDSM gear, it’s this: anything can be kinky, no matter how vanilla it looks on the surface.