From left: Wry Mantione, Janet Hardy, and Kate Loree
This Saturday, poly educator Wry Mantione returns to Stockroom Hall with another one of his very popular Polytalk events, this time featuring two women who can only be described as rockstars of the non-monagamous community. Janet Hardy co-authored The Ethical Slut with Dossie Easton, which remains one of the must-reads for people considering consensual non-monogamy. Originally published in 1998, with a second edition released in 2009, for years it was the only widely-available book on building a polyamorous relationship. Since then, Hardy has written more books on a variety of topics, including her recent memoir, Girlfag.
Kate Loree is a licensed marriage and family therapist who’s become one of the few relationship professionals to speak publicly and frankly about alternative lifestyles. She has become a highly respected name among kinky and non-monagamous people in a field that often either pathologizes or ignores alternative sexualities. Wry spoke to us about these two women’s work, the upcoming event, and his own experiences living non-monogamously.
Is there a time of the year when it’s better to be someone with a kinky and slightly twisted imagination than spring? It’s not for nothing that when Stravinsky’s ballet “The Rite of Spring” premiered in Paris in 1913, the audience rioted. We sometimes feel that way ourselves: When the world edges its way out of the chilly and wet winter months and that new warmth begins to spread through all the corners of your body, the temptation to run a little amok is easy to understand.
Fortunately, we have a way that you can celebrate the sensuality of spring without tearing a concert hall apart. In our Rites of Spring sale, running from now until March 27, we’re selling some of the finest gear in our inventory for discounts up to 40% so that you can celebrate the beauty of spring in a lustful frenzy of your very own. Here’s a few examples of what we have on sale:
Call us kinky, but there’s something sexy about the thought of an over-sized magical rabbit sneaking into our house in the dead of night and hiding tiny present-filled eggs in every nook and cranny before stealthily hopping away into the darkness.
Just us? We think not!
How do you become a quality dominant? Not just someone who can give orders and protocols or swing a whip, but a quality dominant who’s genuinely respected by your play partners. According to Sir Rucifer, there’s a lot more to it than buying gear and deciding on a safeword; every dominant is different, and success depends on finding your own style, not imitating the images you see in the media.
This Saturday, Rucifer is returning to Stockroom University to talk about how to find that top style that suits you best and create an environment that’s safe for both doms and subs.
Anya de Montigny
Most people nowadays have heard of tantra; far fewer could tell you what it actually is. Sex educator Anya de Montigny thinks that in the process of bringing tantra to the West, it became overly focused on hedonism in order to make it more marketable. But she thinks that focus also discarded many valuable elements of tantra that teach skills in building boundaries and connections to other people through sensual play and breath work.
On March 12, Anya will bring her ideas to Stockroom University in a workshop called “Dark Tantra: Honey on the Razor’s Edge.” We talked to her about what she thinks genuine tantra should be, and how it can be incorporated into BDSM.
It took a long time for the clitoris to get appreciated, and you could argue that it still hasn’t gotten its proper due. While there’s a major market for Viagra, Cialis, and other drugs designed to make penises erect, scientists have a history of being kind of… skittish about studying the clitoris. Maybe most notoriously, Freud declared that orgasms resulting from stimulation of the clit were a sign of sexual immaturity.
In the late 1940s, Dr. Charles Goss made the clit disappear entirely from the illustrations in the 25th edition of Gray’s Anatomy, the classic medical text. Whether it was an error or Goss had some kind of puritanical agenda is unknown. But after 90 years of being accurately depicted in the most famous anatomy text ever, the clit vanished.
This weekend marks the beginning of one of our favorite annual events: The Transgender Erotica Awards. This is the eight time around, and every single time, it’s been a fabulous, sexy celebration of a porn genre that often gets overlooked — if not openly despised.
This year, they’re taking the show a little further than before, by kicking it off with TEACon, a one-afternoon conference at Stockroom Hall. From 1-5 PM tomorrow, fans will have the opportunity to meet, schmooze with, and get signed photos from their favorite stars, including Foxxy, Michelle Austin, Eddie Wood, and Soldier Boi. While getting ready for the festivities, we talked to Grooby Marketing Director Kristel Penn, who’s put an incredible amount of effort into making everything happen, about what’s going to happen at TEACon, and where the inspiration came from.
It’s hard not to be impressed — or even just overwhelmed — by the list of people that you’ve got lined up to appear at TEACon. Can you give me an overview of what you’re planning to happen with all these stars in one room?
We have so many great performers scheduled throughout the day and they’re all really excited to meet and interact with their fans. We’ll have a media wall for ample photo ops and many of our performers will be signing headshots and selling other merchandise. Behind the scenes we have a really talented videographer named Isabel Dresler interviewing the performers as well, so there will be lots going on all afternoon.
Suction-operated penis pumps are easily recognized by most people, but using pumps on breasts, nipples, vulvas, and other sensitive body parts shouldn’t be neglected or ignored. A little suction in the right place can be an extremely pleasurable experience no matter what your anatomy or gender, and a lot of imagination has gone into creating the tech to provide a whole slew of options.
On Saturday, Feb 27, Dr. Vixenne will come to Stockroom University to talk about a very popular — and very misunderstood — topic: Squirting. While ejaculation has typically been considered something that you can only do with a penis, people of all genders have been more and more interested in how to spray, squirt, or gush with a vagina. It can be a very beautiful, sexy thing, but also and extremely frustrating one because there are so many rumors, fetishes, and misconceptions surrounding squirting. As a prominent sexologist and educator, Dr. Vixenne will be helping Stockroom University students understand separate the myths from the facts. We asked her how to tell the difference between the two.
Female ejaculation has become increasingly popular, at least as something to aspire to or to try out. When somebody comes to a workshop like yours, what kind of myths do they bring with them, and what are the realities?
Some myths around squirting tend to be things like “Is it pee?” (It’s not.) There’s very little urea in “female” ejaculate, usually just what’s left in the urethra from the last time the person urinated. It’s actually very similar to “male” ejaculate, minus sperm, along with sugars.
Another misconception I hear a lot is along the lines of “Is it as explosive or dramatic as in adult films?” And certainly, there may be some people who are capable of ejaculating copious streams, but not everyone can, and remember — that’s movie magic with editing and whatnot. Sometimes, it simply a warm gush or trickle. Neither should be a value judgement. Both are awesome.