Five Kinky Toys That Look Scarier Than They Are

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We know looks aren’t everything, but it’s impossible to deny that they count for a lot —  especially when it comes to the right gear for your toybox. When you’re pulling out something that you’ve been saving for just the right moment with your partner,  you are probably hoping to see that look of mingled anticipation and trepidation cross their face, at least momentarily. That adrenaline hit of fear-based excitement feels so good that we seek it out wherever we can: horror movies, roller coasters, or even in the bedroom.

We’ve put together a little list of five of our favorite toys to make their eyes go wide. Each of these items has the ability to raise more goosebumps than welts (if used with a delicate touch), but you still need to exercise caution and restraint at all times;  even the most cuddly or innocuous item can be dangerous if you use it wrong.

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Want to Talk Dirty? Ashley Manta Shows You How

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Ashley Manta

We may be living in the Golden Age of Dirty Talk. Not only is porn of all varieties easily available, but millions of people are carrying their phone with them everywhere they go — fully equipped with high-tech photo and video capabilities. We have more opportunities to get up to long-distance hanky-panky than any time since we traded in Morse code for the telephone.

But unfortunately, talking dirty is a lot harder that it sounds at first — and that’s where Ashley Manta comes in. A former phone sex operator who had to overcome her own fears of talking dirty, she’ll be coming to Stockroom University this weekend for a course on how to limber up your filthy tongue to say exactly the things that you want it to say. We dialed her up for a few early tips on good phone sex.

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Plunge Into Jamaica With The Stockroom This May

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The first week of May, The Stockroom will be joining Plunge Fetish at the legendary Hedonism II resort in Jamaica for an entire week of sexy, kinky play. Of course, we always love showing off our gear and toys, but Plunge isn’t just another event; there are few events that allow participants to indulge in their kinkiest fantasies for an extended period of time without being bothered by the cares or judgement of the outside world.

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Mistress Morgan’s Prescriptions for Safe, Fun Medical Play

Mistress Morgan Sterling

Mistress Morgan Sterling

Many kinksters (and a lot of vanilla folks, too!) started their sensual explorations with the very simple game of “playing doctor” as kids. When you’re an adult, playing doctor becomes much more complicated. Medical play is a sophisticated, advanced form of BDSM, but along with its pleasures, it has unique risks. Mistress Morgan Sterling has loved doing medical play as both sub and domme for over twenty years; this weekend, she’s coming to Stockroom University to share her love and her skills with interested students. We talked with her about why she enjoys medical play herself, and what newcomers have to keep in mind to do it safely and pleasurably.

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Without Consent, It’s Not Kink: The Lessons of the Ghomeshi Trial and the Virginia Court Verdict

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A few recent high-profile legal cases with implications for the BDSM community as a whole have stirred up some conversations around The Stockroom over fundamentals, best practices, and protocol for safe, sane, and consensual BDSM. We’re committed to being good leaders in the kink community, and that means talking about some subjects that may be uncomfortable, divisive, or controversial. While we strive to embrace a diversity of opinions and worldviews, we also feel duty-bound to address these issues as they relate to providing a healthy environment for all adults to explore the rich tapestry of human sexuality. That’s not possible without establishing a common ground of mutual respect and responsibility from which to operate.

While cases like the Jian Ghomeshi trial and the recent Virginia Court ruling against a student at George Mason University don’t apply directly to us, the issues they raise should be familiar to most kinky people. Whether you’re new to the scene or a deeply-entrenched veteran, these are topics worth thinking about and paying close attention to. We hope to expand on this conversation in the future both here and during some of our Stockroom University workshops in Los Angeles.

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Wry Mantione on Commitment, Communication, and Doing Polyamory Right

From left: Wry Mantione, Janet Hardy, and Kate Loree

From left: Wry Mantione, Janet Hardy, and Kate Loree

This Saturday, poly educator Wry Mantione returns to Stockroom Hall with another one of his very popular Polytalk events, this time featuring two women who can only be described as rockstars of the non-monagamous community. Janet Hardy co-authored The Ethical Slut with Dossie Easton, which remains one of the must-reads for people considering consensual non-monogamy. Originally published in 1998, with a second edition released in 2009, for years it was the only widely-available book on building a polyamorous relationship. Since then, Hardy has written more books on a variety of topics, including her recent memoir, Girlfag.

Kate Loree is a licensed marriage and family therapist who’s become one of the few relationship professionals to speak publicly and frankly about alternative lifestyles. She has become a highly respected name among kinky and non-monagamous people in a field that often either pathologizes or ignores alternative sexualities. Wry spoke to us about these two women’s work, the upcoming event, and his own experiences living non-monogamously.

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Stockroom’s Rites of Spring Sale Brings More Than Bunnies and Eggs

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Is there a time of the year when it’s better to be someone with a kinky and slightly twisted imagination than spring? It’s not for nothing that when Stravinsky’s ballet “The Rite of Spring” premiered in Paris in 1913, the audience rioted. We sometimes feel that way ourselves: When the world edges its way out of the chilly and wet winter months and that new warmth begins to spread through all the corners of your body, the temptation to run a little amok is easy to understand.

Fortunately, we have a way that you can celebrate the sensuality of spring without tearing a concert hall apart. In our Rites of Spring sale, running from now until March 27,  we’re selling some of the finest gear in our inventory for discounts up to 40% so that you can celebrate the beauty of spring in a lustful frenzy of your very own. Here’s a few examples of what we have on sale:

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The Stockroom’s Easter Egg Hunt is On!

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Call us kinky, but there’s something sexy about the thought of an over-sized magical rabbit sneaking into our house in the dead of night and hiding tiny present-filled eggs in every nook and cranny before stealthily hopping away into the darkness.

Just us? We think not!

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Sir Rucifer Returns to Stockroom University to Talk About Topping

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Sir Rucifer

How do you become a quality dominant? Not just someone who can give orders and protocols or swing a whip, but a quality dominant who’s genuinely respected by your play partners. According to Sir Rucifer, there’s a lot more to it than buying gear and deciding on a safeword; every dominant is different, and success depends on finding your own style, not imitating the images you see in the media. 

This Saturday, Rucifer is returning to Stockroom University to talk about how to find that top style that suits you best and create an environment that’s safe for both doms and subs. 

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Anya de Montigny Talks About Taking Tantra to the Dark Side

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Anya de Montigny

Most people nowadays have heard of tantra; far fewer could tell you what it actually is. Sex educator Anya de Montigny thinks that in the process of bringing tantra to the West, it became overly focused on hedonism in order to make it more marketable. But she thinks that focus also discarded many valuable elements of tantra that teach skills in building boundaries and connections to other people through sensual play and breath work.

On March 12, Anya will bring her ideas to Stockroom University in a workshop called “Dark Tantra: Honey on the Razor’s Edge.” We talked to her about what she thinks genuine tantra should be, and how it can be incorporated into BDSM.

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