I step out of the dark, hot nightclub into the cold air of New York City. My latex dress reflects the streetlights. I feel sexy. I’m hot and my body is wet with sweat from the dance floor, but I throw my wrap around me. The temperature of this material changes with my environment and chills quickly. I can hardly wait to get home so my lover can heat it up again.
The dress itself is almost a sexual experience. With the nature of the material, it’s difficult to get in and out of it alone, forcing you to invite someone to assist you in dressing and undressing. Once it’s on, they can buff your body to a gleaming shine.
Latex is giving yet snug. It stretches, and the amount of stretch is dependent on how thick the material may be. You’ll look like you have been dipped in a candy coating, your curves accentuated. It’s like a second, more flawless skin. It’s beautiful. Leather wear on the other hand gets better with time, changing the shape of the garment to fit you, as they say, like a glove.
That’s what I love about fetish wear, whatever your sexual inclinations are, dressing can bring them out. What you wear can be used as an expression of your desires. Changing your attire can mean changing your mindset.
Don’t be shy to dress. There is no human body that is perfect. Learn to love what you are. Look at me, I’m buxom. I dress this body so that I feel as sexy as I am. It works. So to my curvy femmes out there, here are some tips.
The dress I wore that night was the short and daring Swing Dress in black. It leaves plenty of room for my hips and bust. It is perfect for wearing with a corset under or over the dress. You’ll have a real hourglass shape while you billow out the top.
Some other dresses I lust after? This dress and this dress. Both have that circle skirt design that I love. And this zipper dress also has a world of possibilities because you can unzip the bust and hips to make adjustments for luscious curves.
I love to wear my dresses short, so there is just the possibility of a sneak peek up my skirt. It also makes my legs look longer. This means wearing cute panties, just in case there is a photo op! These lace-up panties and these frilly panties fit the bill, depending upon what kind of mood you might be in.
I wear my stocking high on my thighs so they don’t cut into the meat on my thighs. I love these fishnets with no elastic at the top. Wear a little petticoat under a flared dress for more dramatic hip curves.
A quick way to bring fetish fair to a classic black look, I have recently taken a liking to arm gauntlets in rubber, leather or lace-up styles. You might consider adding a dramatic leather collar to an opera dress. These little tricks will have you ready to storm any fetish party with style.
One of the many things that makes me love Stockroom is they stock larger sizes (for people of every gender) when available. It means those of us with hips, thighs, ass and tits can find the quality we deserve.
I’m kinky, for sure. But when I was asked to explore the KinkLab Neon Wand® Electrosex Kit I was intimidated.
This is a toy that creates an electrical discharge across the surface of the skin and it is visually stunning. It plays with your senses. When you turn it on, the glass attachments (also called electrodes) glow violet or red. Watching the electricity dance inside the glass tubes and on the skin is totally mesmerizing. Turn the lights down low and the glow is more intense. It is a beautiful way to amplify your lover’s anticipation, be it fear or excitement.
The wand itself is plastic and comes neatly packed in a case. Each glass attachment sits safely in its own foam compartment. I love the little user manual that comes with it. The manual clearly outlines safety, care and play. All you have to do is pick the attachment of your choice, pop it in the end of the wand, plug the wand in, turn it on and you are ready to play. So simple.
The static electric sensations it delivers can go from subtle, warm and tingly, to focus, intense and even painful. You control how much sensation you want to deliver. There are a couple of reasons why the sensations can vary so greatly. First you have a setting dial on the wand itself. Second, the attachment you choose will also have an impact on the intensity.
The larger the attachment, the less sensation it gives because the electricity is spread out over the surface of the skin. So the comb shaped electrode delivers the least amount of sensation, while the 90° Probe is the most intense because the pointed tip delivers all the focus to one pin-pointed spot. The kit comes with four electrodes to choose from. There are three more electrodes sold separately.
You can play with the dial, attachments, how close you are to your partner’s skin and see for yourself. You can also amp the sensation up even more by applying massage oil or lotion to the skin.
Take it all a few steps further by adding the Power Tripper to your kit. Pop the end of the Power Tripper into your wand, tuck the metal disk into your bra, panties, boot or wherever it can sit flush to your skin, and then you become the conductor of sensation. Use your fingertips, your tongue or nipples to create sparks between you and your lover. Hold a metal toy (like a Wartenberg Pinwheel) in your hands and it becomes your conductor. The possibilities are endless.
I love the variable settings, it’s light weight in my hands and when compared to comparable items, it feel less fragile. In terms of hygiene, you never have to touch the other person’s skin, or if you do touch skin you can swab it down with 75% alcohol. After a little research, an easy user manual, and a very willing guinea pig to explore with- I am a total convert!
My ultimate Valentines date plan? Start right now. Tell your partner that you have something planned. Have them set February 14th aside. Tell them they’ll need to dress sexy, but don’t tell them what you have planned. You want to stir up anticipation because anticipation hot!
Your goal is to spoil yourself and spoil your lover. On Valentine’s day I want you to give yourself plenty of time to prepare. Take some time to make yourself feel sexy.
All sex play starts with your skin. When shaving, avoid harsh scents that can irritate your skin. Instead use a quality shave cream like JO Shaving Cream Women Pure or JO Shaving Cream Men Adrenaline. You’ll have no bumps, rash or irritation, even in your most sensitive areas.
One of my absolute favorite after bath rituals? Kama Sutra Honey Dust Body Powder. It inhibits sweat, tastes sweet and is never sticky. After you towel off, powder any spots you want to feel your lover’s lips. Or get a Kama Sutra Weekender Kit and get a taste of this and more of the inspiring treats Kama Sutra makes. Then go on to primp and dress nice. If you feel sexy, you are sexy.
Prepare light, sexy nibbles; think chocolate, cheese, fruit and drinks of your choice. You can then feed each other and then move right into the sex! Yes, before dinner.
One of the biggest mistakes we make on a date is to save sex for the end of the evening. By that point you’ve had a big meal, you are half drunk, you are tired. I want you to get it on when you are little hungry, while your energy level is high. I want you to get your heart beating and muscles working and your skin all flush. All before dinner!
But again, be ready for awesome sex. Have condoms within reach. (Kitchen drawer, hand bag, glove box or anywhere you may want to get it on! Kimono is one of my favorite brands. If you have a massive cock (some people do!) they have larger sizes too.
Think about the things that light the two of you up. If you like erotica, get a copy of Sweet Life Erotic Fantasies for Couples and read to each other. Or read it before Valentines, highlight your favorite parts and give it your lover as a gift.
Do you like to give and receive massages? Get a fresh bottle of massage oil. I love Kama Sutra Massage Oil Sweet Almond. It’s a light scent that is perfect for all genders. You’ll spoil each other, feel good and smell luscious.
Like it a little more rough? I hope so. And if so, you might want to take a look at this blindfold, wrist restraints, ankle restraints and collar with hearts inlayed. You might also want this red heart paddle or the braided red crop. Go ahead- torture them with love, lust, pain or pleasure. You want to make sure they’ll never forget where they got those gifts!
Once you have turned each other upside down, it’s time for dinner. You can cook something you both love, order in or go to your favorite restaurant. Best of all, you can feast upon each other; skin all flush, panties wet, body relaxed and with lust in your hearts.
Make sure to visit our Valentine’s Day Sale for great savings on all the gear you need to make your night one to remember!
Nipples respond so nicely to stimuli. Changing shape and size as they become erect. Nipple play works to release oxytocin, a feel good hormone that can inspire a heavy breathing, dizziness, a sensation of being high and an innate desire to repeat whatever behavior triggered the hormonal release.
Studies show approximately 3% of the population can orgasm from nipple play alone. While others are very “hands off, don’t touch my nips.” Those are both perfectly natural responses to nipple play. With this in mind I just want to tempt you with some nipple ideas for your play.
There are nipple toys on sale until Monday, and also be sure to check out a full range of nipple clamps, suction pumps and jewelry. And I know you have more ideas, please leave a comment and inspire me!
Throughout National Kink Month, we’re having weekly sales on Stockroom.com: this week we’re featuring some of our favorite medical sex toys and nipple clamps and pumps. All month long we’ll be showcasing tricks, tips and lessons for using the fetish toys and BDSM gear on sale that week.
Floggers, paddles and other impact toys are favorites among many experienced players, but can seem too intense to beginners. In this post, Ducky DooLittle describes some of the different sensations from various styles and materials of floggers and paddles, as part of the many ways to explore sensation play.
Sensation play can be rough and hard, soft and comforting or slow and subtle. It can inspire goose bumps, wiggles, whimpers, wincing, heart racing, breath catching, recoiling, begging, squealing, struggle and surrender. Here are ten sensation play ideas for you to explore.
Throughout National Kink Month, we’re having weekly sales on Stockroom.com: this week we’re featuring some of our favorite impact toys (like paddles, slappers and floggers), as well as CBT gear (cock & ball torture). All month long we’ll be showcasing tricks, tips and lessons for using the fetish toys and BDSM gear on sale that week.
Bondage is a fantasy that many find alluring. You may want to do the tying or be tied up. You might love the beauty of a perfect knot. Or perhaps you want to tie your lover up in a quick and effective manner to quell their struggle. You may like to stand back and tease your helpless mate. Maybe you lust to feel the rope against your skin as your partner pulls and pushes you off balance as they tighten their control, while always keeping you safe. You may have visions of using rope to secure optimal positions for intercourse and penetration. These desires are valid and you can achieve them. Let’s start by finding the right rope for you and get you started.
TYPES OF ROPE
Cotton: Traditionally associated with Japanese rope bondage. Soft to the touch and will not rub or chafe the skin. Holds your knots tightly, this can make it hard to undo a very tight knot. It will stretch a bit with use and has no scent. It has a shorter life span when compared to other ropes. To clean cotton rope, slip it in a lingerie bag to keep it from getting tangled and machine wash with like colors. Use cold water and air dry to avoid shrinking.
Nylon: Sensual as it moves over bare skin. It is durable, easy to clean and maintain. Nylon rope has no smell. It will stretch with repeated use, up to 20% in length. It will not hold a knot as tight as other options listed here. To clean nylon rope, slip it in a lingerie bag to keep it from getting tangled and machine wash with like colors. This bondage kit with nylon rope is a great deal and a great way to launch into rope and sensation play.
Here are a few basic tips:
Throughout National Kink Month , we’re having weekly sales on Stockroom.com: this week we’re featuring some of our favorite rope bondage gear and how-to books, as well as select anal toys for both men and women. All month long we’ll be showcasing tricks, tips and lessons for using the fetish toys and BDSM gear on sale that week.
We have a special holiday gift for you all in the form of song, direct from our pals, The Crockett Feldman Explosion! Listen at a loud and proud volume and have yourself a merry little SEXmas!!
On the first day of SEXmas,
On the seventh day of SEXmas,
On the eighth day of SEXmas,
On the ninth day of SEXmas,
On the tenth day of SEXmas,
On the eleventh day of SEXmas,
On the twelfth day of SEXmas,
We’re proud to present a guest blog from one of our favorite overall awesome people, Juli Crockett. She’s a playwright and theater director, retired (undefeated) professional boxer and amateur champion and lead singer of the alternative country band, The Evangenitals.
Let her guide you down the path of enlightenment for ideas on a truly memorable Halloween costume.