As a longtime practitioner of tease and denial (both giving and receiving, on film and in my personal life) I’ve realized that being able to choose when you come helps you not just in terms of obeying a master or mistress, but in more traditional aspects of your sex life as well. The ability to do so takes the sort of practice that tease and denial or edging yourself can prepare you for.
“Edging” (not to be confused with edge play) is the practice of taking yourself to the brink of orgasm and then backing down just before you come. In doing so, you maintain a high level of sexual arousal for an extended period of time and when you do finally have an orgasm, it can be very intense.
Chances are, you guys already partake in “gentleman’s time”, so edging while you are doing it isn’t too large of a leap. If you want to see results, you have to put the time in and keep a few things in mind:
If you intend to go the distance you’ll need to reapply at some point and hunting for it will distract you in the moment. Choose a lubricant that doesn’t break down too quickly or become sticky (I’m a fan of Pjur Aqua). Only use something that’s actually intended for this sort of thing; using lotion (or soap in the shower) can actually cause skin issues that can end up being quite severe. Attempting to edge dry can cause chaffing; if you prefer a slightly more masochistic approach then perhaps that’s not a big deal, but I recommend that you use lubrication.
Time It Right
Choose a time and place where you can focus with no interruptions or distractions. If you want to really learn how to make it last, you shouldn’t worry yourself over having to abruptly wrap things up. Setting a time limit is fine though and tracking measurable results will be easier for some people.
Bring A Toy
Toys will make this even more challenging and enjoyable; a variable speed vibrator works very well for both men and women because it’ll stimulate you in a very different way than when it happens manually. The VibeRite wand has lots of speed options and is pretty gender neutral, so even if the idea of buying a vibrator for yourself is intimidating for some of you guys, you can find something approachable that won’t make you feel like you are sword fighting. You can also try toys like the Tantus vibrating cock ring or any number of anal toys (if it seems taboo to you it’ll probably add to the thrill, or it least it does for me).
Play With The Senses
If you’d like to make the experience a little kinkier, you can include restraints, blindfolds or plugs into your edging sessions. For many people the sense of touch is heightened when you take away the sense of sound or sight, so adding sensory deprivation to your session may make even more enjoyable. Adult films can also make this more of a challenge; pop in your favorite scene and see what it’s like to try and keep control while all your buttons are being pressed.
Your goal in edging yourself is to get as close to orgasm as possible, but in the beginning that might be difficult to judge, so I recommend in the beginning that you take yourself about three quarters of the way to orgasm and come to a stop. Put your hands in the air and hold them there. Count to thirty before you touch yourself again, and push little closer the next time around. Do this over and over again, but take care not to ruin your own orgasm!
Slow It Down
From personal experience I can tell you guys that methods such as flicking or pinching the tip that will sober your cock up a bit. For others, ice is a good solution. Learning to tighten your PC muscles with Kegel exercises will also help you stop when things are happening too fast. Don’t underestimate the ability of the mind to find a solution to cool you down too; find something that’ll bring you back down to earth without completely ruining the mood.
Bring A Friend
If you want to try edging yourself during sex with a partner, stop when you are close to coming and focus completely on their pleasure. Using some cooling down time to focus on the person(s) you are in bed with can give you an opportunity to collect yourself. Sex isn’t (necessarily) a marathon, but it should last for as long as you want it to without coming to an abrupt end. Edging is a great way to improve your ability to do that.
Having someone else edge you can be fun as well; Athena Fatale gave some great suggestions in her post about tease and denial that can be put to use in edging with a partner, so I suggest you give it a read. She also gave some great toy recommendations that you can use either alone or with a partner.
Whether it is for self-satisfaction or to be a better lover, edging is a good way to give greater purpose to masturbation. The result is worth the effort and you’ll enjoy the process as well.
About The Author: Ryan St. Germain is a writer, photographer and fetish film producer. In the past, he's appeared in over seven hundred adult film scenes, but stays behind the lens these days. He blogs about his work, relationships and anything else that enters his admittedly deviant mind.
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The iRide Vibrator from Doc Johnson is the new toy in town, and is appropriately named: it is a bubble-gum pink, saddle-shaped vibrator made to be literally ridden.
The toy has two separate vibrating components, each of which have their own independent on/off button, and buzz to varying speeds and intensities. One of the vibrators is a 4-inch phallus shaped insertable and the other is a rounded bump intended for clitorial stimulation. The toy’s body is curved so that the rider can hop on and rock their hips with greater ease… it’s like a rocking chair for your genitals!
Masturbation doesn’t always have to be about replacing sex, but on occasion, it’s nice to have a toy that gets close to simulating actual sex acts. Those who want their self-lovin’ to resemble jumping on top of someone sexy may find this to be a perfect option for them. At a little more than a foot long and five inches wide, the iRide vibrator feels sturdy and meant for rough’n’tumble use.
Unlike typical vibrators, the iRide can be a completely hands-free experience, meaning that it has the potential to be incorporated into play with a partner too! Imagine rocking back and forth on a vibrating toy, being stimulated while finding other, more important uses for your mouth and fingers…
The box has a few cute femme-bodied silhouettes demonstrating various positions that work well with the vibrator, from placing it on a chair to spooning with it between your legs. I made sure to take a few joy rides on the buzzing rocker so I could test out how it worked in the positions recommended and on different surfaces.
FIRST TEST RUN
SURFACE: Cushy leather couch
POSITION: Sitting right on top, using the probe vaginally
SIDENOTE: Using “probe” and “vaginally” in the same phrase makes me feel like I should be discussing alien abduction instead of a sex toy!
LUBE: Frolic, a water-based toy lubricant meant for women
NOTES: This initial test run was a complete bust!
After boisterously bouncing on the couch for a minute or two, I nearly took a header off the edge! After catching myself and readjusting, I tried again, but the soft surface below the vibrator had too much give to assist in creating necessary friction.
After a second near fall, I decided to give up on this try, get a glass of wine, and jerk off with my hand instead. I mean, it’s National Masturbation Month… not getting myself off in the end would be criminal.
SECOND TEST RUN
SURFACE: Oddly angular chaise with a firm surface, and then the floor next to it
POSITION: Sitting right on top, using the probe vaginally…again
LUBE: Swiss Navy, a water-based all natural lubricant
NOTES: Wow, this was much better!
Finding the right angle on the iRide is no easy task! It took way longer than I wanted to find that sweet spot where I was receiving juuuuuust the right amount of sensation from both the insertable and the rounded clit vibe. The process was a bit like getting to know a new lover, only without the added benefits of body warmth: Even the faintest sign of an orgasm in the distance was touch and go until I found the right angles.
That said, the firmer surface made a huge difference in using the toy. Once I hit the right groove, I could appreciate the intensity of both of the vibrators, as well as the curve of the probe. The shape of the toy, both the insertable portion and the saddle itself, make up for how short the probe itself is.
One orgasm was not enough; I had put in so much work into getting that one that it only seemed worth it to try for another, even though my clit was getting slightly sore from the unfortunately inflexible bump vibe. While they did a fantastic job creating a toy that can handle the buck of sizable hips, the clit vibe was way too inflexible, and after some time, fell too far on the side of pain rather than pleasure. The time spent figuring out the best way to work with the iRide paid off though, and it was easy to get back into the groove.
SUCCESSFUL? Yes! Multiple orgasm success!
THIRD TEST RUN
SURFACE: The bed, first alone, and then with a partner
POSITION: Spooning! And then being fucked with it.
NOTES: As a person who needs intense contact with the vibes I use, spooning wasn’t the position for me. Using it with a partner was mostly fun, especially since we could make out while I got started on it. That hands-free thing really can be a benefit! The way the saddle is shaped pretty much blocks off all genital access to another person, though, and when my partner wanted to get involved, they grabbed the toy and used it against me, which wasn’t bad. The iRide definitely wasn’t the star of the show, though.
SUCCESSFUL? Sure. It didn’t lead to orgasm, but was a pretty decent tool as a part of foreplay.
The iRide Vibrator is definitely in a class of its own amongst toys that can be ridden while still being easy to store and not too costly. It was easy to clean (I cannot recommend Swiss Navy’s toy cleaner enough), too.
My complaints are mostly that the clit bump is not nearly soft enough, and that…well, I’m a little lazy when it comes to jerking off! It’s a little fussy, but the iRide is made well and adds a different vibe to the masturbatory experience. While I don’t think the iRide is practical for day-to-day diddling, the toy would be fantastic for “special occasion” usage. As long as you are willing to put the work in, the iRide will make your toes curl as your hips rock.
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About the Author:Tizzy Wall is an Oakland-based sex worker, product reviewer, writer, and general Jane-of-all-Trades in the sex industry. After working as a California certified domestic violence counselor for two years, she left the world of non-profits to pursue a life that is equal parts intellectual and salacious. Her writing can be found on various blogs over the years, and she was recently published in Glitter: Real Stories from Real Women About Sexual Desire. She also recently spoke about how to be an ally to sex workers at Catalyst Con East and West. She is currently writing for Slixa, a new advertising platform for sex workers, as well as serving as a junior editrix for The Glitterhood, and constantly reviewing sex toys.
Last week the gorgeous Athena Fatale graced us with her musings on teasing aspect of tease and denial. This week, she finishes it off with some thoughts and hints on denial. Will it be a happy ending, or a frustrating brush off? Read on for the thrilling conclusion!
Do you ever want something so bad you can’t stand it? You fantasize about it and obsess over it, it consumes your every thought and motivates your every action until finally, at long last, you either achieve success or suffer a crushing defeat. If you reach your goal, the satisfaction is so sweet that you can revel in it for days, replaying the moment in your mind and reliving the victory over and over. A crushing defeat can heighten your determination to be successful in your next venture, pushing you to greater and more satisfying accomplishments that far surpassed your original goal.
Sex can be much the same way. Whether you are enjoying sex alone or with a partner, or partners, a little tease and denial really ratchets up the intensity. We are sexual creatures, and once our senses are aroused it is hard to turn back. Anyone who’s ever heard a boy carry on about ‘blue balls’ knows that they certainly don’t enjoy turning back. That doesn’t mean you can’t have fun insisting they do! As a Dominatrix, I find that there is little my slaves won’t do if they think there might be a chance for an orgasm in their future. Sometimes I like to play a little game where I make my slave stroke himself to the brink of orgasm then stop abruptly and assume the position for 20 strokes with the cane, with additional strikes given for whining or complaining. We repeat this until I am satisfied he can no longer take any more, and I most likely send him on his way with a swollen ass and swollen, aching balls. This is great fun for me, a sadistic game of give and take for my own personal amusement.
Tease and denial can be quite sadistic even without the added caning. Is there anything worse than being on the verge of orgasm but unable to achieve climax? I think not. Vibrators can be just the thing to push you or your partner over the edge, or in this case just close enough to almost go over… but not until you say so. One of my favorite vibrators on the market right now is the VibeRite from KinkLab. It’s incredibly powerful and offers 7 speed settings so you can control just how much, or how little vibration your partner receives. Use it externally to warm things up, then add one of the attachments that provide G-spot or P-spot stimulation to take the sexual intensity to the next level. Many people can climax quickly with a VibeRite, so switch to a low setting and light strokes to prevent an unintended orgasm.
Just the tip, he says? We’ve all heard that before. Now thanks to the Cobra Libre by Fun Factory,’just the tip’ is all he’ll get! This male masturbator is designed to stimulate the most sensitive part of the penis – the head. Use the vibration settings to work your partner in to a frustrated frenzy then negotiate your terms for letting them release. Since this toy is specifically designed to stimulate only the glans and the frenulum, it leaves the lower shaft and testicles free for additional stimulation. Whether that additional stimulation is painful or pleasurable depends on you. Use your hands and mouth if you’re feeling nice, or add some clothespins or a prickly Wartenberg Pinwheel if you’re not! Mix it up to keep your partner on their toes and ready to explode from frustration.
Tips for delaying or denying orgasm:
• Monitor breathing and body language. Watch for signs of pleasure and allow positive reactions to continue for brief periods of time and increase in intensity, but stop before climax is reached. Ask your partner to verbally communicate when they are close to orgasm if needed.
• Have your partner rate their arousal on a scale of 1-10, with 10 being an orgasm. Instruct them to masturbate themselves to a 7 before stopping, then an 8, then 9. Each time they come closer to their goal it becomes more and more frustrating, and increasingly difficult to stop. Sexual frustration is the name of this game. Enjoy it, you sick bastard.
• Bondage is perfect for tease and denial. Tie your partner to the bed and use a vibrator or masturbator to bring them close to orgasm, then stop and make them beg for more. Better yet, make them earn it!
• When incorporating rope bondage in your tease and denial play, give your partner just enough slack to masturbate with one hand. When they get close to orgasm, pull the rope taught so that they can no longer reach their fun parts. Laughing at their discomfort is optional.
• Counter an approaching orgasm with a shock to the system. Ice cubes, nipple clamps, a wooden paddle – all of these things can disrupt the pleasure of sensory overload and ruin an orgasm before it’s time.
• Assign your partner a task to complete when they are close to orgasm. It’s hard to climax when you have to recite the Pledge Of Allegiance, or sing the Star Spangled Banner.
It’s human nature to want what we can’t have, and there is nothing we want more than sexual gratification. A greedy pig will gobble up whatever is in front of him without ever taking the time to really appreciate what he has. Your orgasm is the food that nourishes you; take your time and enjoy it to it’s fullest. Savor each delicious bite, let it fill every inch of your body. Because if you don’t eat your dinner, someone just might take it away.
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Plenty of people I’ve talked to hit it right out of the park on the first try with the Fun Factory G4 Big Boss. For whatever reason, perhaps my body type or the way I’m used to receiving pleasure, the Big Boss and I had to spend a little quality time together before hitting it off. Once we clicked, however, we became inseparable!
This vibrator is naturally suited toward those that prefer deep rumbly vibration, like a larger area of the clit and vulva stimulated, and/or those that favor insertables. I’m used to toys that do other things, hence why I had to go through a bit of a learning curve. I’m glad I stuck with it and kept experimenting. The Big Boss is now among my favorite insertable style vibrators.
The powerful, deep rumbly vibrations the Big Boss dishes out feel much different than your average buzzy vibrator. When set to its highest setting, it has a power level on par with a plug-in magic wand style toy. One thing I really liked about this vibrator is it didn’t cause me to lose sensation. Often, when I use very powerful vibes, they are so intense my genitals end up going numb before I’ve had the chance to come. Not the case with the Big Boss. It’s still an intensely powerful sex toy but didn’t deaden sensation. I’m not quite sure how Fun Factory pulled that off (secret vibrator magic?) but they get big kudos from me for getting me off without making me go numb.
Design and Use
The Big Boss vibrator can be used for either external clitoral stimulation or as an insertable. I found it great for both. My preferred method of getting off is having a clit orgasm first and then finishing off with g-spot play. I usually have to switch toys for this but not necessary with the Big Boss. I get everything all in one toy.
As an insertable it’s big. Definitely not for those new to insertion or those who need something on the smaller side. Luckily, I love size so the 6.5 inch insertable length and 5.5 inch circumference was perfect for me. Made from velvety, premium silicone, this sex toy has enough give to bend a just a little bit under pressure which I like. Because of it’s size, I did need to make sure I was very warmed up before insertion. Make sure you use a good amount of water based lube with this toy, not only because of it’s size but also the soft silicone exterior has just a bit of drag. The Big Boss also features six levels of intensity and a variety of patterned and solid pulses.
The loop on the handle is great addition. It makes the toy very easy to hold either during solo play or by a partner. Kinky folks may opt to use the looped handle as a point of attachment in a bondage scenario. To keep the vibrator inserted, securely weave through the handle with a rope harness. Not sure if Fun Factory had that in mind when they designed this sex toy but the handle really is quite convenient for bondage enthusiasts.
I also love that this is a rechargeable vibrator. I hate fumbling with batteries or finding my toy has lost power because the batteries aren’t fresh. The Big Boss charges with a magnetic charger that simply adheres itself to the handle of the toy. It’s a brilliant design in theory, however, the magnet can become easily detached if it shifts when you set it down. Simply double check to make sure the magnet hasn’t shifted before you walk away from the charging toy and you shouldn’t have a problem.
My Experience and Final Word
The Big Boss and I had a rocky start because I tried to use it like a buzzy vibrator which is the kind I’m used to. Once I experimented and discovered some new techniques to go along with this new type of sensation, it was pure fireworks. Not only did I have great, strong, clitoral orgasms, it was also wonderful for g-spot stimulation. I’m not normally someone who likes vibrations for g-spotting (because I go numb inside as I previously mentioned) but the Big Boss was an exception. I climax and squirt every time with the Big Boss when I use it for g-spot stimulation. It also felt amazing when I inserted it, closed my legs and rocked my hips.
Overall, I was really impressed with the Fun Factory Big Boss. At first I didn’t think we’d hit it off but we’ve grown to be really good friends with lots of benefits. For more tips and tricks about the Big Boss make sure to watch my video review. In addition, here’s a quick recap of my pros and cons:
Fun Factory Big Boss Pros
• BIG! Great for size queens
• Deep, powerful, rumbly vibrations
• The different type of sensations are a nice change from toys that all feel the same
• Premium Silicone
• Loop handle design is comfortable and can be incorporated into bondage ties
• Great for clitoral or g-spot stimulation
Fun Factory Big Boss Cons
• BIG! If you aren’t accustomed to size it may be too large for you
• The charger can be touchy, always double check it before walking away
• Not suitable for anal use (no flared base)
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About the Author: Sunny Megatron is an adult sexuality and BDSM educator, sex blogger, Red Light District Tour guide, and pleasure advocate. She teaches sexuality, relationship, and kink workshops across the U.S. with her partner Ken Melvoin-Berg. She is also one of the infamous Northwestern Fuck Saw Four.
In burlesque, the art of the tease is what matters most. It is a long, slow courtship between the performer and the audience she is seducing. She offers a little peek here, a quick flash there. She gives you a taste then takes it away and leaves you wanting more. This dance is a sort of tease and denial, a lusty give-and-take that continues until finally the climax is reached and the audience cannot help but explode with satisfaction. If we take the same approach to our orgasms, the results can be quite explosive indeed. As they say, good things come to those who wait.
You’ve probably heard of a little thing called foreplay. It’s what happens before sex. This is the ‘tease’ part of ‘tease and denial’ and serves more purpose than just achieving erection or vaginal lubrication. It’s what gets us hot and bothered and sets the stage for a truly earth shattering orgasm. Foreplay is also crucial to many female orgasms, so don’t be stingy when it comes to pleasing the ladies. Oral sex and manual masturbation are always great for getting things started but to really prolong the pleasure, and spare your jaw in the process, you can incorporate a number of sex toys for both men and women.
Vibrators make fantastic tease toys. Whether you are teasing your partner or pleasing yourself, start with your vibrator on a low setting and lightly caress near the vagina or perineum to get things started. Experiment with different angles, speeds, and pressures as well as specific points on and around the genitals, nipples and anus. Vibrators that feature multiple vibration patterns like the Lelo Mona Red or the Laya Spot by Fun Factory are ideal for sexual teasing and allow you to quickly change things up if you find yourself or your partner approaching orgasm too quickly. The Oh MiBod iPod Vibrator syncs to your iPod and will pulse to the beat of your favorite music, so a good playlist can alter the vibrations for you if you’re flying solo.
Male masturbation sleeves offer a bit more for those taking the ‘hands on’ approach to orgasm achievement. These soft, textured sleeves are designed to enhance manual masturbation by recreating the sensation of vaginal or anal penetration. Slip in to a Titanmen Tool Box or a textured Vibratex Suction Sleeve and stroke yourself or your partner slowly and gently. More endowed men may prefer the extra girth and length of the Tantus Stroker XL. Vary your grip strength and stroke speed until breathing quickens, then switch to slow, loose strokes to prevent any pre-intended ejaculations. Patience is the name of the game in tease and denial play, and a good tease is a slow tease.
Tips for teasing with toys:
• Always start slow and increase gradually. Try different speeds, strengths, vibration patterns, etc to find what drives you wild, then treat yourself to a few seconds of pure pleasure before switching techniques or moving to another area. Bring yourself (or your partner) slightly closer to orgasm each time without climaxing.
• When teasing a partner, monitor their body language to gauge their reactions to your manipulations. Rapid or heavy breathing, clenched fingers, curled toes, an arched back or even a tilted pelvis can all be signs of an approaching orgasm. Listen for audible clues like moaning or other verbal communications.
• When using vibrators, use a series of quick, light passes over the clitoris or frenulum intermixed with long, slow, heavy strokes and firmer pressure to stimulate the genitals and heighten arousal. Allow the sensations to build gradually for more intensity.
• Vary sensations and erogenous zones. Add in some spanking or nipple play to keep things lively. A little pain intensifies the pleasure!
• Blindfolds are perfect for teasing scenarios. The heightened senses and lack of control increase sexual arousal and add a sense of mystery to your orgasmic journey.
• Add some bondage to your foreplay! There is nothing more frustrating and exciting than to be at the mercy of a lover who is taking their time, pleasing you slowly, making you beg to release your sexual tension, bringing you close to orgasm time and time again but never quite letting you climax until they decide you are ready.
Which brings us to the agony and ecstasy of denial. But more on that next week. You’ll just have to wait to find out what I have in store for you…
About a year ago, a few of my rowdy Texas girlfriends and I were gathered at a beachfront hotel for a friend’s wedding. As we lay in bed after the rehearsal dinner the drunken banter commenced, and by morning the ‘John Denver’ was born. What is a ‘John Denver’, you ask?
It turns out my friend (who has spectacular tits, made for hot dogging) enjoys boob sex so much that, as she said, “I thought titty fucking was like John Denver, who doesn’t love it??” We might have forgotten that golden nugget of information had she not awakened us, bright and early, with John Denver’s Greatest Hits. Within a week of returning home she had tattooed ‘John Denver’ in a delicate and graceful script right in the curve of her cleavage. Now that’s commitment!
Partialism – sexual interest in specific body parts – is quite common. Everyone has body parts, they are each as unique as the individual and can be quite fascinating. I myself have a bit of a nipple fetish. Anyone who has ever stepped in to my dungeon, or my bed, knows this. Nipples are like happy little joy magnets, drawing me to them and begging me to pinch them, squeeze them, slap them, scratch them, pierce them, poke them, twist them, lick them, bite them, suck them, tickle them. I cannot keep my hands, and sometimes mouth, off of them.
Foot fetish is arguably the most common body part fetish we indulge ourselves in, myself included. It’s one of my most frequent requests as a Dominatrix, and I sometimes attend foot fetish parties where lucky subs get the chance to worship my perfectly pedicured feet. Some of my favorite sexual memories involve a boyfriend with a serious foot fetish. I could drive him wild and give him a raging hard on in a crowded restaurant just by slipping off my shoe and placing my foot on the seat in between his legs. I didn’t even have to touch him, just my foot being there did the trick. But of course I did touch him! It made for great public tease and denial scenes, and even better foreplay. The frustration he suffered was so intense he could barely stand it and I loved every sexually agonizing minute. The drive home was always fast and furious. During sex he would stop and scold me if my feet weren’t constantly touching him, and it was hot. His fetish for my feet drove my arousal, as did the power that “The Twins” had over him. It was intoxicating.
Fetishes for certain body types are quite common as well. In a world where ‘thin is in’ and clothing sizes are available in 00 (because apparently you really can be less than zero) big girls reign supreme. Adipophilia or ‘fat fetish’ is strong attraction to overweight or obese people. A quick internet search reveals no shortage of forums and websites devoted to BBWs and those who worship them. As one commenter puts it, “For me it is a dream come true. I love to be with a big woman and be able to show her off and let the other men drool as they only have stick chicks.” Indeed I’ve heard several of my male friends lament the discomfort of being stabbed mid-coitus by the jutting hips or pelvic bones of a skinny girl, or feeling like they might break her, literally.
Tenga Egg Masturbators make getting off fun, convenient, and cheap whether you are a man on the go or just relaxing at home! Check out my review and tips on these popular disposable sex toys and then enter the Stockroom contest to win a set of all 6 for yourself (see contest details below)
Sometimes men are resistant to try new things. Sex toys seem alien and foreign to some guys, so they need an easy way to break their sex toy cherry. The Tenga Egg is the single best male starter toy in stores today.
It is a squishy, textured male masturbator that you can take with you travelling anywhere. In fact, I got my first one as a surprise from my girlfriend when I was going on a business trip and she wanted to surprise me with a sexy gift. I was so happy to try something new, and to use a one shot device was novel. I loaded up my favorite nasty porn, lubed up myself and my egg then matched thrusts with the guy in the porn. When I finished, I cleaned myself up and was so happy I could just throw it away when I was done making sweet love to it. Mr Lazy here didn’t have to do any cleanup at all.
It is exceedingly simple to use. Unwrap the egg, take out the lube sample inside, open up the lube and squirt it inside the mastrubator. Watch some porn, get some wood, stick it in the warm wet egg, thrust and repeat until orgasm.
This set of toys is one of the best ideas that hit the mainstream sex toy market in a long time. It is an easy to use toy made for men, but usable by all. The concept is simple, a male masturbator sold individually or in 6 packs of 6 different textured eggs. Each plastic egg comes with with a Tenga Egg and a lube sample. The best part is figuring out which texture is best. So far the grid like Spider is my favorite. A close runner up is the Wavy. The names of the Six Colors Pack are a description of the textured pattern:
They were originally intended to be a one shot use device, but can easily be re-used 3 to 4 times. They are made out of a stretchy elastomer called Thermo Plastic Elastomer. T.P.E. is a pliable jelly like substance that makes for a great, squishy, stretchy orgasmic experience.
I like the versatility and alternate uses you can do with it. You stretch it to such extremes that it can be used, not only as a solo device, but you can use it with your partner as a blowjob helper. Stretch it on the end of your cock and you get extra sensitivity, have someone suck your cock with it on for an extra interesting feeling. Handjobs and blowjobs aren’t the end to this little beauty, you can also use it as a cheap addition to a Kinklab VibeRite. Flip it inside out and use the textured side on the vibrating head of your VibeRite for added enjoyment on your favorite body part.
This toy is also one size fits all. It is pliable enough to fit even the largest cock. Once you can get someone to try this great starter toy, then you have opened up a whole new world of sexual enjoyment. Have fun experimenting with them and don’t forget to write us back if you find a use for these we haven’t thought of!
Pros of the Tenga Egg
• Alternative uses
• Easy to use
• Comes with lube
• Lasts longer than they says it does
Cons of the Tenga Egg
• You don’t know which texture is best for you until you try them all
• Can make for an embarrassing moment at Easter (just kidding)
• Better for beginners than seasoned sex toy pros
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About the Author: Ken Melvoin-Berg owns Weird Chicago Tours and Chicago's finest dungeon: "The Studio". He is the creator of the World's first Sex Tour and teaches sexuality, relationship, and kink workshops across the U.S. with his partner Sunny Megatron. In addition to authoring 14 books on various subjects; Ken is an adult content copywriter and edits/writes numerous articles on sex positivity, sexual technique, BDSM, and perversity. He is also one of the infamous Northwestern Fuck Saw Four.
After interviewing James Deen a few months ago about his new Doc Johnson toy line, I couldn’t stop wondering what the Deen Peen really felt like. I was thrilled when presented with the opportunity to give it a whirl. For quick facts, check out my written review below. If you want even more dirty details, watch my accompanying video review.
Design and Use
This realistic cock is a full 9 inches of authentic James Deen. The detail is impeccable. It has life-like veins, ridges, and even one ball that hangs slightly lower than the other. I do watch porn, a lot of porn. I know all too well what James Deen’s penis looks like and this really is the real deal.
With an insertable length of about 6 inches and the circumference at its widest point also about 6 inches, this toy isn’t for the faint of heart. It’s girthy and has a nice natural curve near the head that hits the g-spot nicely. It’s also heavy, clocking in at 1.7 pounds.
This is a stationary dildo; it has no vibrations or extra bells and whistles. It features a suction cup base for hands-free use and is also harness compatible. Since this toy has a wide enough base, it is also suitable for anal.
The James Deen Realistic Cock is made from Sil-a-gel which has an ultra-realistic feel. Sil-a-gel is antibacterial, non-toxic (Phthalate free), latex-free and camium free. It’s also somewhat porous. For this reason, I recommend using a condom on the toy if you intend to share it or use it anally.
Sil-a-gel should be cleaned with mild soap and water or a toy cleaner. It should also not be stored touching other toys. I actually made this mistake before reading the instructions carefully. I set my James Deen dildo next to a purple toy and the a little bit of purple color bled onto the cock. Now it looks like James Deen has a little dick bruise! The toy comes with a cloth bag for storage, I highly suggest using it.
Normally I don’t have a penchant for life-like looking sex toys. As long as a toy feels good, I don’t care if it’s green with purple polka dots or shaped like a tennis racket. I’ve also never used a sex toy molded after a real person before.
I was surprised to discover that fucking a “real” penis was quite a turn on for me. It helped me create a fantasy I wouldn’t have thought up otherwise. It also made the porn I watch that much more realistic. I got a kick out of not only imagining fucking James Deen but also tossing him aside afterward and not having to cuddle, listen to him snore or call him a taxi!
I’m a bit of a size queen and this filled me up very nicely. It was big enough to satisfy but stopped just short of being too big. As long as you’re not someone who normally has issue handling larger insertables, this should be suitable. Simply warm yourself up, use a generous amount of water based lube and cook up your hottest James Deen fantasy.
Despite its weight, this dildo stood up nicely to gravity. The suction cup is quite strong and it had no problem staying adhered to a vertical wall for a lengthy session. I’m also a fan of strap-on sex so being harness compatible is a wonderful bonus.
The Final Word
Overall, I really liked the James Deen Realistic Cock. I never really understood the appeal of a toy that is a replica of a real person before this. Much to my surprise, it’s a nice addition to the fantasy that goes along with sex play.
Alone I can have my way with James Deen. Wearing it as a strap-on I have the most sought after penis in the entertainment industry. Partnered, I can be the star of my very own hard-core DP scene with James Deen and my most trusted lover. I can even make James Deen a part of a cuckold scenario by making my lover watch me enjoy taking it all. Hmmmm, I wonder what else I can do with Fake James Deen? The sky’s the limit!
About the Author: Sunny Megatron is an adult sexuality and BDSM educator, sex blogger, Red Light District Tour guide, and pleasure advocate. She teaches sexuality, relationship, and kink workshops across the U.S. with her partner Ken Melvoin-Berg. She is also one of the infamous Northwestern Fuck Saw Four.
In this video I review these luscious leather thigh cuffs. With three sizes to choose from and adjustable slots within those sizes, you are sure to get a great fit. And the thickness of the leather straps hold tight and look oh-so-sexy wrapped around your thighs.
I also show you these little locks and snap hooks as a means of securing your thigh cuffs.
And finally I deliver a few notes on how to love your leather. If you are a leather lover like me, you should check out this all-in-one leather cleaner and conditioner. And this book is the bomb if you want more information on how to care for fetish gear.
About the Author:Ducky DooLittle is a sex educator and author from New York City. She has appeared in the New York Times, HBOs Real Sex, The Morning Show, MTV, NPR, The Howard Stern Show, Playboy TV, to name a few.