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Chastity roleplay can turn sexual frustration into one of your most powerful and satisfying sexual experiences. Though they’re often associated with medieval tortures and Victorian repression, chastity belts and devices are actually much more popular today than they were in the past. That’s because they’re now used as sex toys for orgasm denial and control – the voluntary kind, where the goal is the delayed reward of cumming, rather than the subjugation of the chastised person. Teasing your partner while he’s wearing a male chastity device heightens his psychological arousal by preventing his physical arousal, because he won’t be able to think about anything except his cock and the person in charge of it. Giving your partner blue balls for a little while will dramatically intensify your foreplay – and everything that follows! What Are Chastity Toys Used For? Chastity is a powerful way of eroticizing denial and limitations. For some men and couples, chastity is a lifestyle and a primary focus of their everyday sexuality. Though currently there are no sanitary long-term chastity options for women, there are several very popular chastity devices for men designed for long-term wear, and some men have reported wearing them for periods of over a year! Some chastity devices are strictly meant for short-term use, since they’re made of metal, like the Houdini, which locks onto the cock and balls with a handcuff. Others are designed for cock and ball torture (CBT) and too intense to wear for long, like Mike’s Spikes® – a penis-sized steel Iron Maiden with adjustable spikes that became notorious when featured on “American Horror Story.” The focus here, though, is on using male chastity devices for short-term sensual fun, where the focus is on the promise of delayed pleasure rather than causing discomfort. Orgasm control and denial (also called “edging,” or “peaking”) can offer exciting possibilities for couples seeking new erotic adventures. Read on to learn how to shop for a comfortable, good-quality chastity toy and fun ideas for using it! Choosing the Right Male Chastity Device The ideal chastity toy for teasing is one that prevents arousal without causing pain, because it will be incredibly frustrating without dampening your partner’s enthusiasm or abilities after he’s set free. The most comfortable and sanitary chastity devices are the ones created for long-term wear, because they’re made of washable, skin-safe materials. CB-X male chastity kits, which includes the popular CB6000, is another quality toy line. CB-X products come in several colors of easy-to-wash medical-grade polycarbonate plastic, and are also ventilated for long-wearing hygiene. Unlike the Birdlocked, which is a single molded piece, CB-X kits come with a variety of components that allow up to 20 different size configurations. Getting the Right Fit In order to be both comfortable and effective, a male chastity cage should fit snugly when the cock is at rest without either leaving gaps, or biting into the skin. Both the cage length and the diameter of the cock ring need to be considered to get the right fit. Both Birdlocked and CB-X male chastity devices come with different cage lengths. Don’t feel judged by the lengths offered: to do its job, a chastity cage has to be quite a bit shorter than a soft cock, so even the longest cages measure under 4″! The best rule of thumb is to get a larger size if you’ve got a lot of girth and length when flaccid; if you’re a grower, not a shower, get the shorter cage. Some chastity cages, like the CB-X kits, come with a set of different size base rings; others, like the Birdlocked, must be ordered with the appropriate size ring. Don’t know what size you take? Here’s how to measure for a cock ring:
How to Wear a Male Chastity Toy Don’t try to squash a hard on into a chastity cage! All that handling will make your cock excited, but a cock needs to be soft to put on a chastity toy. Fitting an excitable cock into a small cage can be a bit of a struggle, but there’s a couple techniques that can smooth the way. Putting a little lube on the head and shaft of your penis can help the cage slide on; some people also like to lube the inside of the base ring a bit, too, so the cage doesn’t stick in one position when worn. Silicone lube is nice with the rigid CB-X kits, since it doesn’t dry out or get sticky, but oil or water based lubes should be used with the Birdlock to avoid degrading the silicone toy. Avoid flavored lubes or ones that contain glycerin, since putting sugars in a warm, moist place can give you a yeast infection. Alternately, you can used the lube-free Stocking Method (as invented Tickleberry) to slide a cock cage on without lube. Uncircumcised men may find this technique an especially good way to keep foreskin from getting trapped at the end of the cage:
Once you’re inside the cage adjustments can be tricky, since chastity sex toys are confining by design. Applying a little lube to tight-fitting spots with a cotton swab as you adjust position will keep the cage from tugging on sensitive skin. How to Pee in a Chastity Cage Most men find it easiest and cleanest to pee sitting down when wearing a chastity device. Make sure your urethra is positioned so everything drains out the slit at the end of the cage before you start! Prevent painful pulling on tender skin by using a cotton swab to lube the end of your penis before adjusting it. Male Chastity Safety and Hygiene
Six Teasing Tips for Short-Term Chastity Fun: Here are some fun ideas for you and your partner to try out with your new chastity toy:
Throughout National Kink Month, we’ll be showcasing tricks, tips and lessons for using the fetish toys and BDSM gear on sale that week. Halloween is a fantastic time of year full of trickery, childlike excitement, and shoving fistfuls of candy in your mouth in between bouts of consuming every possible product on the market with the words “pumpkin spice” on the label. Halloween is also the time of year when you get to don your scariest, sexiest, most “on the streets” daring outfits, and get into mischief in the darkness of night. But more importantly, WHAT TO WEAR!? We’re here to help with some handy suggestions of costumes to get you from the house parties to after-parties when it’s time to do some moaning and groaning of your own! (Added bonus, most of these feature products discounted in our Halloween Sale.) • Miss Diagnosis • In The Doghouse • Hell Horse • Raccoon Mario • After-School Special • WAY Beyond The Thunderdome • Abbie Normal And if all else fails, toss on some good old fashioned chains and padlocks and stir up some moral judgment as Jacob Marley’s ghost! *clang, drag, clang* Our Halloween Sale and National Kink Month Sale run until the end of October – get creative and save! Floggers, paddles and other impact toys are favorites among many experienced players, but can seem too intense to beginners. In this post, Ducky DooLittle describes some of the different sensations from various styles and materials of floggers and paddles, as part of the many ways to explore sensation play. Sensation play can be rough and hard, soft and comforting or slow and subtle. It can inspire goose bumps, wiggles, whimpers, wincing, heart racing, breath catching, recoiling, begging, squealing, struggle and surrender. Here are ten sensation play ideas for you to explore.
Throughout National Kink Month, we’re having weekly sales on Stockroom.com: this week we’re featuring some of our favorite impact toys (like paddles, slappers and floggers), as well as CBT gear (cock & ball torture). All month long we’ll be showcasing tricks, tips and lessons for using the fetish toys and BDSM gear on sale that week. Bondage is a fantasy that many find alluring. You may want to do the tying or be tied up. You might love the beauty of a perfect knot. Or perhaps you want to tie your lover up in a quick and effective manner to quell their struggle. You may like to stand back and tease your helpless mate. Maybe you lust to feel the rope against your skin as your partner pulls and pushes you off balance as they tighten their control, while always keeping you safe. You may have visions of using rope to secure optimal positions for intercourse and penetration. These desires are valid and you can achieve them. Let’s start by finding the right rope for you and get you started. TYPES OF ROPE Cotton: Traditionally associated with Japanese rope bondage. Soft to the touch and will not rub or chafe the skin. Holds your knots tightly, this can make it hard to undo a very tight knot. It will stretch a bit with use and has no scent. It has a shorter life span when compared to other ropes. To clean cotton rope, slip it in a lingerie bag to keep it from getting tangled and machine wash with like colors. Use cold water and air dry to avoid shrinking. Nylon: Sensual as it moves over bare skin. It is durable, easy to clean and maintain. Nylon rope has no smell. It will stretch with repeated use, up to 20% in length. It will not hold a knot as tight as other options listed here. To clean nylon rope, slip it in a lingerie bag to keep it from getting tangled and machine wash with like colors. This bondage kit with nylon rope is a great deal and a great way to launch into rope and sensation play. STORAGE SAFETY Here are a few basic tips:
MORE RESOURCES Throughout National Kink Month , we’re having weekly sales on Stockroom.com: this week we’re featuring some of our favorite rope bondage gear and how-to books, as well as select anal toys for both men and women. All month long we’ll be showcasing tricks, tips and lessons for using the fetish toys and BDSM gear on sale that week. Throughout National Kink Month , we’re having weekly sales on Stockroom.com: this week we’re featuring some of our favorite rope bondage gear and how-to books, as well as select anal toys for both men and women. All month long we’ll be showcasing tricks, tips and lessons for using the fetish toys and BDSM gear on sale that week. Hopefully you’ve all mastered the Single Rope Cuff from our recent instructional post. This Double Rope Cuff With Ring tying technique is another variation that will help you continue your journey exploring rope bondage techniques. This easy rope bondage tutorial will allow you to attach wrists or ankles to each other as well as any piece of furniture your heart desires:
Want to try even more advanced techniques? We’re featuring everything you need to get started with playing with rope bondage on our National Kink Month Sale through the rest of the weekend! Instructions and images from KinkLab Bondage Rope product booklet, © 2011 The Stockroom, Inc. Throughout National Kink Month , we’re having weekly sales on Stockroom.com: this week we’re featuring some of our favorite rope bondage gear and how-to books, as well as select anal toys for both men and women. All month long we’ll be showcasing tricks, tips and lessons for using the fetish toys and BDSM gear on sale that week. Interested in rope bondage and don’t know where to start? From simple knots to elaborate shibari, rope tying may seem like a daunting art reserved for professionals. Don’t get lost at sea, follow these simple techniques and you’ll be tying knots like a sailor in no time (instead of just cussing like one). Here’s an easy rope bondage tutorial that lets you attach a person’s wrist or ankle to a bed post, the arm of a chair, or any other piece of furniture your heart desires:
Check out more rope bondage basics tutorials: How To Tie A Double Rope Cuff with Ring. Ready to get started? We’re featuring bondage rope and instructional rope bondage books on our National Kink Month Sale through the rest of the week! Instructions and images from KinkLab Bondage Rope product booklet, © 2011 The Stockroom, Inc. To kick off National Kink Month, we’re having a sale on Stockroom.com on some of our favorite rope bondage gear and how -to books, as well as select anal toys for both men and women. This week and every week through the end of October, we’re featuring tricks, tips and lessons for using the fetish toys and BDSM gear on sale that week. This week, we’re going to give our helpful hints on using a butt plug. Just like opinions, everyone has an asshole…which means that ass play should be universally enjoyable for anybody, so long as they learn how to do it comfortably and safely. Butt plugs can be a great way to prepare for anal sex. They’re fun to wear during intercourse for both partners, and equally fun to wear masturbating alone. (Or for someone else.) They’re also a compelling means of teasing your partner, or keeping their attention engaged during roleplay. Whether you’re new to using a butt plug or just want to increase your comfort and wear time with anal sex toys, these simple steps can help you have as much fun as possible:
Avoid wear and tear on tender tissues by using a thicker or longer-lasting personal lubricant. Silicone has good staying power and is condom-safe; cream lubes has an excellent texture, too, but make sure it isn’t oil based, or it will degrade latex condoms. Try a Lube Shooter to get lube in deep enough to smooth the way.
Preparation makes anal sex or using a butt plug will make you less self-conscious and everything more sanitary. Wash yourself out in the shower with a douche set like the StreemMaster or Shur Shot, or use a more conveniently sized bulb style anal douche. Make sure to lubricate the nozzle before you use it, and wash your douche set thoroughly after each use with antibacterial soap and warm water.
When you’re first putting in a butt plug or other anal toy, being relaxed enough can be just as important to your comfort as using the right lube. One simple way to relax your muscles sufficiently is to take a deep breath when your toy is poised in place; then push the butt plug in slowly as you breathe outward. If you need to, stop to inhale; then start pushing again as you exhale a second time. If you feel pain or cramping, slow down! If the pain doesn’t ease immediately, it can help to remove the toy entirely; take another deep breath; then reinsert the plug as you breathe out again.
Always wash anal toys thoroughly with antibacterial soap and warm water when you’re through playing, and let them air dry completely before storing. To prevent infection, never share unsanitized toys between partners, or move a toy from the ass to the vagina. |