My First Ball Gag

It changed my entire relationship with sex.

It may sound outlandish, but it’s true. I had plenty of kink inspired thoughts and play, but a gag? It had never even entered my sexual imagination. Until one day he sent me a text that simply read, “Buy a gag.” He gave me no other instructions.

I poured over this very website and explored the possibilities. Ball gags, bit gags, ring gags… where to start?

I remember a conversation with a friend, she told me she bought a cheap gag in a sex shop and the ball was made of some kind of plastic that smelled horrible and tasted worse. This is why I came to Stockroom, I could trust that they knew more about quality kink products than I did.

Many of the gags come in various sizes, I decided something smaller would be easier for me to wear, and because he gave me no instructions, I took the easy way out! Finally, I picked leather over rubber straps as I am attracted to the scent and knew I would wear this on my face. I choose a simple black leather ball gag.

KinkLab's Pink Rubber Ball Gag is perfect for classic bondage scenes

I emailed him when the package arrived. He instructed me to carry my new gag, still sealed in the package, in my purse. And I did. For weeks. It went with me everywhere, just as he instructed. If we met for drinks he would ask me if I had it with me, but for weeks he did not ask to see it or use it. But I knew he might pop up at any time and ask for it. I did not want to disappoint him.

More time passed. Finally I went to him and asked, “When will we use this gag?”

He had done it. He had embedded the object deeply into my imagination. Now I was asking for it. That’s what he was waiting for.

The first time he buckled it onto me, it felt like a gift. It was more comfortable than I imagined. I was enamored with the sound of the buckle. He spun me around and looked into my eyes and there was this electricity. Here I was deprived of my voice but other expressions took its place. Eye contact, body language, and uncontrollably, saliva began to pool in my mouth and drop from my lips in long strings. My lust, it was undeniable.

So how did my ball gag change my relationship with sex? From that day on I have learned to keep my mind open. I feel like there must be a million other things that have not reached my sexual imagination but may light me up in new ways. I don’t need to have a fetish for the object itself, but stay open to the experience it may create with another.

Throughout National Kink Month, we’re having weekly sales on Stockroom.com: this week we’re featuring some of our favorite bondage restraints and gear. All month long we’ll be showcasing tricks, tips and lessons for using the fetish toys and BDSM gear on sale that week.

 

It’s National Kink Month – What Turns You On?

Justine Joli's luscious pair of red lips stretched helplessly around a demanding gag...

Beginner’s Guide to Bondage Tape

Throughout National Kink Month, we’re having weekly sales on Stockroom.com: this week we’re featuring some of our favorite bondage restraints and gear. All month long we’ll be showcasing tricks, tips and lessons for using the fetish toys and BDSM gear on sale that week.

The popular Twilight-inspired trilogy Fifty Shades of Grey has made many people curious to explore BDSM who have never tried fetish play before. We’ve been loving kinky sex for nearly 25 years here at The Stockroom, so it’s exciting to see others discover how much fun it can be, and great to see questions about BDSM come up in mainstream forums.

 

When it comes to translating kinky fantasies into reality, though, fetish sex toys and gear can have a learning curve.

 

If you’ve never used rope, cuffs, or other bondage restraints, one of the easiest, most foolproof ways to learn how to tie someone up is to start with Bondage Tape. Sexy and shiny, Bondage Tape is available in black, red, or bubblegum pink, and comes in 2″ wide rolls that are nearly 5 ½ feet long. The tape is easy to cut to any length you want, though we suggest getting a few rolls at a time so you have plenty to play with.

Bondage tape in red, black and pink

Sexy, shiny, self-adhesive PVC Bondage Tape

Though it’s called “tape,” it isn’t adhesive; it only sticks to itself, because the stretchy hypoallergenic PVC material has an electrostatic cling. This gives it a strong bond that holds firm without knots or ties – it just needs to be overlapped and pressed together to be secured. And because bondage tape won’t stick to skin or hair, you can even use it to make a quick but effective blindfold (just don’t pull it too tight so it presses too hard on the eyes!) It’s also reusable: just unwrap it and straighten it back out onto the roll when you’re done playing, and it will cling over and over again.

Bondage Tape is so inexpensive, though, that most people simply cut it off when they’re ready to set their partner free or change positions – something that makes it an excellent low risk choice for someone experimenting with bondage for the first time.

Even if you prefer to unwrap your tape so you can reuse it, bondage scissors are something you should always have on hand when you’re using bondage tape or rope. These safety shears have blunt, angled blades, so they’ll cut through layers of tape quickly without cutting the skin underneath. No matter how experienced you are with these kinds of restraints, it’s essential to have this emergency quick-release tool on hand.

Bondage Safety Curb Tipped Surgeon's Scissors

Bondage tape can re-used again and again, but we recommend keeping some curb-tipped scissors on hand for emergency quick release.

Tips for Using Bondage Tape

These pointers will help you use Bondage Tape correctly and safely, so you get the most out of it:

  • Since Bondage Tape only clings to itself, it works best if you wrap it round a few times in overlapping rows before pressing the ends down to secure them.
  • Make sure the tape doesn’t bite into the flesh when wrapping; keep it close to the skin but not tight.
  • Always keep the tape flat, like a ribbon; don’t let the Bondage Tape get twisted, or it will turn into a thin cord that won’t stick to anything and cuts into skin.
  • Always check to make sure that bound body parts retain good circulation. Remove tape immediately if limbs are cold to the touch or look bluish.
  • Don’t leave your bound partner in any one position for too long at a time, to avoid causing injury or circulation problems.
  • Never use Bondage Tape for suspension or other weight-bearing forms of bondage.
  • Avoid the risk of suffocation: never put Bondage Tape over the mouth or nose, and always make sure your partner can breathe comfortably, as a bound person may not be able to adjust their position unaided.
  • Always keep a pair of safety scissors on hand in case tape needs to be cut off quickly.
  • If you plan on reusing your Bondage Tape, flatten it out after use, then rewind it onto the spool to store.

Bondage Tips & Fun Roleplay Ideas

Bondage Tape is so versatile and easy to use that it lends itself to dozens of bondage positions and erotic roleplay scenarios. Here are a few of our favorites:

  • Bondage Tape is great to use with furniture. Keep your partner bent over by strapping their arms to the arms of a chair, or seat them in the chair and bind their arms and legs that way.
  • Tape your partner’s thighs together before getting behind them doggie-style.
  • Wrap Bondage Tape around your partner’s head and over their eyes a few times to create a blindfold. You can wrap right over their hair, since the tape won’t stick to anything but itself – just don’t wrap too hard so that it puts pressure on the eyes, and be careful to not give your partner a free haircut if you cut the tape off afterwards!
  • Make a tube top or mini skirt out of rows of wrapped tape – do it with the tape still on the roll to create nice, even rows. Let your partner cut you out of your outfit later with your bondage scissors.
  • Since bondage scissors are based on the shears medical personnel use to cut bandages or even clothing away from patients, you can even use them to cut your partner out of regular clothing. Imagine staging an erotic “abduction” of your partner; restraining them with bondage tape; then cutting them out of both their bonds and their clothing to have your way with them! Of course, like any other roleplay, this “kidnapping” scene should be consensual, and you should discuss in advance what you both feel comfortable with. Make sure to also talk about wardrobe, too, so you don’t wind up cutting up your partner’s favorite outfit!
  • Tease your partner once they’re tied up…or try overindulging and overstimulating them with forced orgasms, and using a vibrating wand massager, hard cock, fingers, or oral to make them cum again and again.

Bondage Tape is on sale this week as part of Stockoom’s National Kink Month Sale!

For more inspiration and extra stimulation, here are a few pictures demonstrating bondage tape in action… Enjoy!

Aria Giovanni bound in red bondage tape

Red bondage tape creates sexy fetish wear for Aria Giovanni… and also keeps her bound to a pole!

T.J. Cummings bound in black bondage tape

T.J. Cummings is left immobile wrapped in bondage tape.

Ashley Fires bound in pink bondage tape

Ashley Fires’ bent over with wrists bound with pink bondage tape, leaving her bottom exposed.

Bondage Restraints! New Savings for National Kink Month Sale

Save on Bondage Restraints – newly featured products during our National Kink Month Sale!

Buckle up – it’s gonna be a wild night!

It's only kinky the first time.

7 Sexy Halloween Costumes: Kinky Twists on Classic Favorites

Halloween is a fantastic time of year full of trickery, childlike excitement, and shoving fistfuls of candy in your mouth in between bouts of consuming every possible product on the market with the words “pumpkin spice” on the label.

Halloween is also the time of year when you get to don your scariest, sexiest, most “on the streets” daring outfits, and get into mischief in the darkness of night. But more importantly, WHAT TO WEAR!?

We’re here to help with some handy suggestions of costumes to get you from the house parties to after-parties when it’s time to do some moaning and groaning of your own! (Added bonus, most of these feature products discounted in our Halloween Sale.)

• Miss Diagnosis
You know what’s missing from most mental health facilities? A bodacious set of ta-tas.
The nurse costume is a classic favorite and frankly, a costume many people look forward to every year. The idea of some delicious vixen taking care of our every need is quite a delight and that cold medical steel feels oh, so good against warm skin.

Latex Garter Dress

Latex Garter Dress

Fishnet Stockings

Latex Exam Gloves

Clyster Syringe

Nurse Handbag

• In The Doghouse
Someone’s been a naughty puppy. Messes on the floor. Chewed up shoes. Late newspapers. Better bring that pooch in line or it’s back to the pound. We also sell deluxe puppy kennel cages. Hint, hint, Fido. Hint, hint.

Dog Hood

Dog Hood

Puppy Fist Mitts

Puppy Fist Mitts

 Doggie Bone Gag

Doggie Bone Gag

 Chain Leash

Chain Leash

 Leather Knee Pads

Leather Knee Pads

• Hell Horse
“The horsemen cometh and you shall too” This little pony went…TO HELL and came back a full-fledged Satanic Stallion. You may need a set of red LEDs or red contact lenses for the full effect, but, as with most costumes, what really sells this outfit is attitude.

Ponytail Anal Plug

Ponytail Anal Plug

Latex Pony Boots

Latex Pony Boots

Pony Head Bridle

Pony Head Bridle

 Waist Cincher

Waist Cincher

 Bust Harness

Bust Harness

• Raccoon Mario
Two Italian Men in a fantasy world, action and adventure AND the power of flight. You can’t really go wrong here. We’ll leave it to you to supply your own definitions for intriguing terms d’art like “Warp Whistle”, “Fire Flower” and “Dark World” Please check your state and local statutes before attempting anything you’d refer to as “The Hammer Brothers.”

Foxtail Anal Plug

Foxtail Anal Plug

 Latex Chaps

Latex Chaps

 Rubber Muir Cap

Rubber Muir Cap

 Latex Suspenders

Latex Suspenders

• After-School Special
Much more entertaining than “Debbie Does Midterms: The Hidden Dangers of Caffeine Addiction” this delinquent disguise is just the thing to get that bad boy (or girl) to give you a ride on their Harley and more. Cut to: A montage of windswept hair through city streets set to “Nothing’s Gonna Stop Us” by Starship. Do we have to keep going? (If you’re feeling too risqué, feel free to throw on a white button-down shirt for a little extra coverage.)

Leather Pasties

Leather Pasties

 Lolly Crop

Lolly Crop

 ThighHighs w/ Bow

ThighHighs w/ Bow

 Leather Mini Skirt

Leather Mini Skirt

• WAY Beyond The Thunderdome
“Two men enter…” sounds like a great set up to a story we’d love to be involved in. We’ll let you argue about who gets to be Master and who gets to be Blaster, unless being Tina Turner is more your thing (And whose wouldn’t it be?) For any post-Apocalyptic fantasy, you’ll need the right gear to survive and thrive in the blasted wasteland (or your bedroom. You really should clean that up.) Complete this look with your favorite pair of black boots!

 Leather Apron

Leather Apron

 Military Gas Mask

Military Gas Mask

 Fuck Saw

Fuck Saw

 Latex Gloves

Latex Gloves

• Abbie Normal
When you positively can’t keep those depraved thoughts at bay, a lock up and shake down may be just what the doctor ordered. Bite down on the towel and prepare for the shock treatment, it’s about to get rough.

 Ankle Shackles

Ankle Shackles

 Punisher Muzzle

Punisher Muzzle

Leather Straitjacket

Leather Straitjacket

And if all else fails, toss on some good old fashioned chains and padlocks and stir up some moral judgment as Jacob Marley’s ghost! *clang, drag, clang*

Our Halloween Sale and National Kink Month Sale run until the end of October – get creative and save!

How to Use a Butt Plug

To kick off National Kink Month, we’re having a sale on Stockroom.com on some of our favorite rope bondage gear and how -to books, as well as select anal toys for both men and women. This week and every week through the end of October, we’re featuring tricks, tips and lessons for using the fetish toys and BDSM gear on sale that week. This week, we’re going to give our helpful hints on using a butt plug.

Just like opinions, everyone has an asshole…which means that ass play should be universally enjoyable for anybody, so long as they learn how to do it comfortably and safely.

Butt plugs can be a great way to prepare for anal sex. They’re fun to wear during intercourse for both partners, and equally fun to wear masturbating alone. (Or for someone else.) They’re also a compelling means of teasing your partner, or keeping their attention engaged during roleplay.

Anal Trainer Kit on Stockroom.com

The Anal Trainer Kit is great for beginners & anal pros.

Whether you’re new to using a butt plug or just want to increase your comfort and wear time with anal sex toys, these simple steps can help you have as much fun as possible:

    1. Buy the right kind of lube.
    Avoid wear and tear on tender tissues by using a thicker or longer-lasting personal lubricant. Silicone has good staying power and is condom-safe; cream lubes has an excellent texture, too, but make sure it isn’t oil based, or it will degrade latex condoms. Try a Lube Shooter to get lube in deep enough to smooth the way.
    2. Choosing the right butt plug:

    • Even if you have lots of practice, it’s best to start out easy with a smaller toy each time you play. Perfect for both beginners or to use as a warm-up, the Anal Trainer Kit is a set of 3 soft rubber butt plugs in graduated sizes.
    • If you want to be able to move around your house – or even go out in public – wearing a butt plug, make sure to either use a butt plug harness, or buy an anal toy that’s designed to stay in securely. For men, toys like the Trailer Hitch – which combines a butt plug with a cock ring that keeps the plug in place, and adds extra sensation. Anal beads and balls are other easy-to-move-in options that work equally well for both women and men.
    • Make sure all your butt toys are easily removable. Classic plugs have bases that keep them from slipping in too far, but other anal toys should have a string or ring to pull so they don’t get lost.
    3. Clean up before you play:
    Preparation makes anal sex or using a butt plug will make you less self-conscious and everything more sanitary. Wash yourself out in the shower with a douche set like the StreemMaster or Shur Shot, or use a more conveniently sized bulb style anal douche. Make sure to lubricate the nozzle before you use it, and wash your douche set thoroughly after each use with antibacterial soap and warm water.
    4. Make sure to relax:
    When you’re first putting in a butt plug or other anal toy, being relaxed enough can be just as important to your comfort as using the right lube. One simple way to relax your muscles sufficiently is to take a deep breath when your toy is poised in place; then push the butt plug in slowly as you breathe outward. If you need to, stop to inhale; then start pushing again as you exhale a second time. If you feel pain or cramping, slow down! If the pain doesn’t ease immediately, it can help to remove the toy entirely; take another deep breath; then reinsert the plug as you breathe out again.
    5. Hygiene and cleaning:
    Always wash anal toys thoroughly with antibacterial soap and warm water when you’re through playing, and let them air dry completely before storing. To prevent infection, never share unsanitized toys between partners, or move a toy from the ass to the vagina.

Summer Reading Fun or “Where To Go After 50 Shades Of Grey”

 

There is an infamous quote by John Waters that we love terribly.

“We need to make books cool again. If you go home with somebody and they don’t have books, don’t fuck them.” — John Waters

That sentiment definitely rings true for us. Reading is sexy. And there’s plenty of sexy things to read about.

We’re all aware of the trend that’s recently swept the nation, 50 Shades of Grey. Whether you love it or hate it, you have to admit that it’s turned a lot of vanilla people to investigating the sexier side of books; We’re talking about something with a little more meat than some random romance novel baring a cover with a shirtless Fabio riding a unicorn through a forest, hair seductively blowing in the wind. Not dissing unicorns though, just to make that clear.

No dude, it's cool.

 

So whether you’re someone who’s only recently started investigating, or you’re someone who’s been in the scene for a while, there’s plenty of awesome literature for you.

If you’re looking for more S&M themed erotica, why not start with one of de Sade’s classics, like Justine or the 120 Days of Sodom? Looking to learn a little more about how to win those dressage events at the Olympics? Check out The Human Pony. In the mood for the perfect overview of the stunning spectrum of human sexuality? Let Violet Blue or Midori be your tour guide on a journey of sensual sociology. There’s pages and pages of options for you to lose yourself in with your imagination. No unicorns for now though. Although we’re working on it. And accepting submissions.

Take advantage of our Summer Reading Sale and snag a bag full of books to tease the senses for cheap!

The 12 Days of SEXmas – A Holiday Song!

We have a special holiday gift for you all in the form of song, direct from our pals, The Crockett Feldman Explosion! Listen at a loud and proud volume and have yourself a merry little SEXmas!!


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On the first day of SEXmas,
my Dear Domme sent to me
a red choker with an o-ring.

On the second day of SEXmas,
my Dear Domme sent to me
Two leather knee pads,
And a red choker with an o-ring.

On the third day of SEXmas,
my Dear Domme sent to me
Three Flicker whips,
Two leather knee pads,
And a red choker with an o-ring.

On the fourth day of SEXmas,
my Dear Domme sent to me
Four rabbit vibes,
Three Flicker whips,
Two leather knee pads,
And a red choker with an o-ring.

On the fifth day of SEXmas,
my Dear Domme sent to me
Five cock rings,
Four rabbit vibes,
Three Flicker whips,
Two knee pads,
And a red choker with an o-ring.

On the sixth day of SEXmas,
my Dear Domme sent to me
Six arm splints binding,
Five cock rings,
Four rabbit vibes,
Three Flicker whips,
Two knee pads,
And a red choker with an o-ring.

On the seventh day of SEXmas,
my Dear Domme sent to me
Seven lubes a-slipping,
Six arm splints binding,
Five cock rings,
Four rabbit vibes,
Three Flicker whips,
Two knee pads,
And a red choker with an o-ring.

On the eighth day of SEXmas,
my Dear Domme sent to me
Eight Rock Chicks rocking,
Seven lubes a-slipping,
Six arm splints binding,
Five cock rings,
Four rabbit vibes,
Three Flicker whips,
Two leather knee pads,
And a red choker with an o-ring.

On the ninth day of SEXmas,
my Dear Domme sent to me
Nine paddles slapping,
Eight Rock Chicks rocking,
Seven lubes a-slipping,
Six arm splints binding,
Five cock rings,
Four rabbit vibes,
Three Flicker whips,
Two knee pads,
And a red choker with an o-ring.

On the tenth day of SEXmas,
my Dear Domme sent to me
Ten neon wands a-shocking,
Nine paddles slapping,
Eight Rock Chicks rocking,
Seven lubes a-slipping,
Six arm splints binding,
Five cock rings,
Four rabbit vibes,
Three Flicker whips,
Two knee pads,
And a red choker with an o-ring.

On the eleventh day of SEXmas,
my Dear Domme sent to me
Eleven butt plugs plugging,
Ten wands a-shocking,
Nine paddles slapping,
Eight Rock Chicks rocking,
Seven lubes a-slipping,
Six arm splints binding,
Five cock rings,
Four rabbit vibes,
Three Flicker whips,
Two knee pads,
And a red choker with an o-ring.

On the twelfth day of SEXmas,
my Dear Domme sent to me
Twelve feather roses,
Eleven butt plugs plugging,
Ten wands a-shocking,
Nine paddles slapping,
Eight Rock Chicks rocking,
Seven lubes a-slipping,
Six arm splints binding,
Five cock rings,
Four rabbit vibes,
Three Flicker whips,
Two leather knee pads,
And a red choker with an o-ring!

Visit our SEXmas sale and put that special someone on the naughty list!

seXMAS is Here! It’s Time To Stock Up For The Winter!

It’s been said over and over and it’s still so true.

Those sweaters. That self-help book. Those hand-made plates. The thought is nice, but seriously. It’s not what they want. It’s not what YOU want. You and your loved ones want something you can actually USE. And we at Stockroom know what you can use.

That’s why we’ve put together our holiday seXMAS Sale! We’ve packed it with super savings on all the goodies to keep you and your loved ones warm at night. We’ve got a fierce collection of select whips, cuffs, hoods, stretchers, toys and much MUCH more at over 50% off!

 

Get in on the sale soon and we’ll have your stockings stuffed and treats under your tree just in time for the holidays!

Stockroom seXMAS 2011 Sale! 

Thanksgiving Sale! Amazing Savings and FREE SHIPPING!

The holiday season has come upon us quickly and it’s now time to prepare ourselves for stuffing and keeping warm indoors with loved ones.

We’re here to help you get ready for what’s ahead with a Thanksgiving Sale filled with lots of our favorite goodies and as an added thank you to all of you for being amazing customers, we’re introducing FREE SHIPPING for all orders over $69.

Gobble, gobble!

Gobble, gobble!