In honor of National Kink Month, and inspired from the popularity of our previous bondage instructionals for Single and Double Rope Cuffs With Rings, we enlisted erotic photographer Victor Lightworship to kick off a series of rope bondage tutorials for us with this quick and easy video that will teach you how to tie your own rope cuffs. This simple yet effective bondage tie is demonstrated on the sexy Skin Diamond using hemp rope from Twisted Monk.
Enjoy all the videos in this series: The Wrist Tie, The Chest Tie, The Leg Tie, and The Crotch Tie!
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Not sure how to care for your new piece of latex clothing? Never fear: Here are five fast tips to keep your rubberwear looking its best.
1) Keep It Dark
UV exposure deteriorates natural latex, turning it powdery and brittle. Keep latex clothing out of the light – especially direct sunlight – as much as possible when it isn’t being worn. Store it in a cool dark place. You can cover it with black plastic trash bags on the hanger as an extra precaution when transporting items or storing them in your closet.
2) Mind Your Metals
Copper, nickel, brass, and bronze will stain or degrade rubber very quickly. Do not allow these metals to come into contact with your latex. Always wash hands after touching these metals before handling latex or the fingerprints may stain the rubber. Be aware of jewelry that may contains these metals as well. Oh, and only use plastic hangers to hang or store latex!
3) Oil Is Your Enemy
Use only silicone or water based lubes and shines for slipping into or polishing your latex. We highly recommend Pjur Cult dressing for slipping into and polishing your latex clothes.
4) Separate Your Leather
Leather contains oils and dyes that may contaminate your latex wear. Keep them stored separately! Use caution when combining leather and latex in your outfits. Keep an eye out for any rubbing off or bleed!
5) Always Wear & Wash
Rubber should be hand washed right after it’s worn, as natural skin oils – like any other oil – can damage latex if they stay on it too long. Fill a basin with warm water and add a few drops of mild dish soap, just enough to make a little foam. Do not use a heavy detergent soap or a washing machine. Do not rubber soak rubber. Agitate the item with your hands, followed by an immediate rinse in clean, cold water. For extra shine, use Vivishine for extra long lasting gloss to your wear!
Hang to air dry on a plastic hanger away from bright light. Once the outside is dry, turn it inside out to finish drying.
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This list offers what we think is the best cheat sheet for players. It is not intended to be exhaustive or universal, but provides a framework that will hopefully stoke your creative fires. Got a story to share about anything on this list? Did we miss something you just can’t live without? Let us know in the comments below!
As a longtime practitioner of tease and denial (both giving and receiving, on film and in my personal life) I’ve realized that being able to choose when you come helps you not just in terms of obeying a master or mistress, but in more traditional aspects of your sex life as well. The ability to do so takes the sort of practice that tease and denial or edging yourself can prepare you for.
“Edging” (not to be confused with edge play) is the practice of taking yourself to the brink of orgasm and then backing down just before you come. In doing so, you maintain a high level of sexual arousal for an extended period of time and when you do finally have an orgasm, it can be very intense.
Chances are, you guys already partake in “gentleman’s time”, so edging while you are doing it isn’t too large of a leap. If you want to see results, you have to put the time in and keep a few things in mind:
If you intend to go the distance you’ll need to reapply at some point and hunting for it will distract you in the moment. Choose a lubricant that doesn’t break down too quickly or become sticky (I’m a fan of Pjur Aqua). Only use something that’s actually intended for this sort of thing; using lotion (or soap in the shower) can actually cause skin issues that can end up being quite severe. Attempting to edge dry can cause chaffing; if you prefer a slightly more masochistic approach then perhaps that’s not a big deal, but I recommend that you use lubrication.
Time It Right
Choose a time and place where you can focus with no interruptions or distractions. If you want to really learn how to make it last, you shouldn’t worry yourself over having to abruptly wrap things up. Setting a time limit is fine though and tracking measurable results will be easier for some people.
Bring A Toy
Toys will make this even more challenging and enjoyable; a variable speed vibrator works very well for both men and women because it’ll stimulate you in a very different way than when it happens manually. The VibeRite wand has lots of speed options and is pretty gender neutral, so even if the idea of buying a vibrator for yourself is intimidating for some of you guys, you can find something approachable that won’t make you feel like you are sword fighting. You can also try toys like the Tantus vibrating cock ring or any number of anal toys (if it seems taboo to you it’ll probably add to the thrill, or it least it does for me).
Play With The Senses
If you’d like to make the experience a little kinkier, you can include restraints, blindfolds or plugs into your edging sessions. For many people the sense of touch is heightened when you take away the sense of sound or sight, so adding sensory deprivation to your session may make even more enjoyable. Adult films can also make this more of a challenge; pop in your favorite scene and see what it’s like to try and keep control while all your buttons are being pressed.
Your goal in edging yourself is to get as close to orgasm as possible, but in the beginning that might be difficult to judge, so I recommend in the beginning that you take yourself about three quarters of the way to orgasm and come to a stop. Put your hands in the air and hold them there. Count to thirty before you touch yourself again, and push little closer the next time around. Do this over and over again, but take care not to ruin your own orgasm!
Slow It Down
From personal experience I can tell you guys that methods such as flicking or pinching the tip that will sober your cock up a bit. For others, ice is a good solution. Learning to tighten your PC muscles with Kegel exercises will also help you stop when things are happening too fast. Don’t underestimate the ability of the mind to find a solution to cool you down too; find something that’ll bring you back down to earth without completely ruining the mood.
Bring A Friend
If you want to try edging yourself during sex with a partner, stop when you are close to coming and focus completely on their pleasure. Using some cooling down time to focus on the person(s) you are in bed with can give you an opportunity to collect yourself. Sex isn’t (necessarily) a marathon, but it should last for as long as you want it to without coming to an abrupt end. Edging is a great way to improve your ability to do that.
Having someone else edge you can be fun as well; Athena Fatale gave some great suggestions in her post about tease and denial that can be put to use in edging with a partner, so I suggest you give it a read. She also gave some great toy recommendations that you can use either alone or with a partner.
Whether it is for self-satisfaction or to be a better lover, edging is a good way to give greater purpose to masturbation. The result is worth the effort and you’ll enjoy the process as well.
Last week the gorgeous Athena Fatale graced us with her musings on teasing aspect of tease and denial. This week, she finishes it off with some thoughts and hints on denial. Will it be a happy ending, or a frustrating brush off? Read on for the thrilling conclusion!
Do you ever want something so bad you can’t stand it? You fantasize about it and obsess over it, it consumes your every thought and motivates your every action until finally, at long last, you either achieve success or suffer a crushing defeat. If you reach your goal, the satisfaction is so sweet that you can revel in it for days, replaying the moment in your mind and reliving the victory over and over. A crushing defeat can heighten your determination to be successful in your next venture, pushing you to greater and more satisfying accomplishments that far surpassed your original goal.
Sex can be much the same way. Whether you are enjoying sex alone or with a partner, or partners, a little tease and denial really ratchets up the intensity. We are sexual creatures, and once our senses are aroused it is hard to turn back. Anyone who’s ever heard a boy carry on about ‘blue balls’ knows that they certainly don’t enjoy turning back. That doesn’t mean you can’t have fun insisting they do! As a Dominatrix, I find that there is little my slaves won’t do if they think there might be a chance for an orgasm in their future. Sometimes I like to play a little game where I make my slave stroke himself to the brink of orgasm then stop abruptly and assume the position for 20 strokes with the cane, with additional strikes given for whining or complaining. We repeat this until I am satisfied he can no longer take any more, and I most likely send him on his way with a swollen ass and swollen, aching balls. This is great fun for me, a sadistic game of give and take for my own personal amusement.
Tease and denial can be quite sadistic even without the added caning. Is there anything worse than being on the verge of orgasm but unable to achieve climax? I think not. Vibrators can be just the thing to push you or your partner over the edge, or in this case just close enough to almost go over… but not until you say so. One of my favorite vibrators on the market right now is the VibeRite from KinkLab. It’s incredibly powerful and offers 7 speed settings so you can control just how much, or how little vibration your partner receives. Use it externally to warm things up, then add one of the attachments that provide G-spot or P-spot stimulation to take the sexual intensity to the next level. Many people can climax quickly with a VibeRite, so switch to a low setting and light strokes to prevent an unintended orgasm.
Just the tip, he says? We’ve all heard that before. Now thanks to the Cobra Libre by Fun Factory,’just the tip’ is all he’ll get! This male masturbator is designed to stimulate the most sensitive part of the penis – the head. Use the vibration settings to work your partner in to a frustrated frenzy then negotiate your terms for letting them release. Since this toy is specifically designed to stimulate only the glans and the frenulum, it leaves the lower shaft and testicles free for additional stimulation. Whether that additional stimulation is painful or pleasurable depends on you. Use your hands and mouth if you’re feeling nice, or add some clothespins or a prickly Wartenberg Pinwheel if you’re not! Mix it up to keep your partner on their toes and ready to explode from frustration.
Tips for delaying or denying orgasm:
• Monitor breathing and body language. Watch for signs of pleasure and allow positive reactions to continue for brief periods of time and increase in intensity, but stop before climax is reached. Ask your partner to verbally communicate when they are close to orgasm if needed.
• Have your partner rate their arousal on a scale of 1-10, with 10 being an orgasm. Instruct them to masturbate themselves to a 7 before stopping, then an 8, then 9. Each time they come closer to their goal it becomes more and more frustrating, and increasingly difficult to stop. Sexual frustration is the name of this game. Enjoy it, you sick bastard.
• Bondage is perfect for tease and denial. Tie your partner to the bed and use a vibrator or masturbator to bring them close to orgasm, then stop and make them beg for more. Better yet, make them earn it!
• When incorporating rope bondage in your tease and denial play, give your partner just enough slack to masturbate with one hand. When they get close to orgasm, pull the rope taught so that they can no longer reach their fun parts. Laughing at their discomfort is optional.
• Counter an approaching orgasm with a shock to the system. Ice cubes, nipple clamps, a wooden paddle – all of these things can disrupt the pleasure of sensory overload and ruin an orgasm before it’s time.
• Assign your partner a task to complete when they are close to orgasm. It’s hard to climax when you have to recite the Pledge Of Allegiance, or sing the Star Spangled Banner.
It’s human nature to want what we can’t have, and there is nothing we want more than sexual gratification. A greedy pig will gobble up whatever is in front of him without ever taking the time to really appreciate what he has. Your orgasm is the food that nourishes you; take your time and enjoy it to it’s fullest. Savor each delicious bite, let it fill every inch of your body. Because if you don’t eat your dinner, someone just might take it away.
In burlesque, the art of the tease is what matters most. It is a long, slow courtship between the performer and the audience she is seducing. She offers a little peek here, a quick flash there. She gives you a taste then takes it away and leaves you wanting more. This dance is a sort of tease and denial, a lusty give-and-take that continues until finally the climax is reached and the audience cannot help but explode with satisfaction. If we take the same approach to our orgasms, the results can be quite explosive indeed. As they say, good things come to those who wait.
You’ve probably heard of a little thing called foreplay. It’s what happens before sex. This is the ‘tease’ part of ‘tease and denial’ and serves more purpose than just achieving erection or vaginal lubrication. It’s what gets us hot and bothered and sets the stage for a truly earth shattering orgasm. Foreplay is also crucial to many female orgasms, so don’t be stingy when it comes to pleasing the ladies. Oral sex and manual masturbation are always great for getting things started but to really prolong the pleasure, and spare your jaw in the process, you can incorporate a number of sex toys for both men and women.
Vibrators make fantastic tease toys. Whether you are teasing your partner or pleasing yourself, start with your vibrator on a low setting and lightly caress near the vagina or perineum to get things started. Experiment with different angles, speeds, and pressures as well as specific points on and around the genitals, nipples and anus. Vibrators that feature multiple vibration patterns like the Lelo Mona Red or the Laya Spot by Fun Factory are ideal for sexual teasing and allow you to quickly change things up if you find yourself or your partner approaching orgasm too quickly. The Oh MiBod iPod Vibrator syncs to your iPod and will pulse to the beat of your favorite music, so a good playlist can alter the vibrations for you if you’re flying solo.
Male masturbation sleeves offer a bit more for those taking the ‘hands on’ approach to orgasm achievement. These soft, textured sleeves are designed to enhance manual masturbation by recreating the sensation of vaginal or anal penetration. Slip in to a Titanmen Tool Box
or a textured Vibratex Suction Sleeve
and stroke yourself or your partner slowly and gently. More endowed men may prefer the extra girth and length of the Tantus Stroker XL
. Vary your grip strength and stroke speed until breathing quickens, then switch to slow, loose strokes to prevent any pre-intended ejaculations. Patience is the name of the game in tease and denial play, and a good tease is a slow tease.
Tips for teasing with toys:
• Always start slow and increase gradually. Try different speeds, strengths, vibration patterns, etc to find what drives you wild, then treat yourself to a few seconds of pure pleasure before switching techniques or moving to another area. Bring yourself (or your partner) slightly closer to orgasm each time without climaxing.
• When teasing a partner, monitor their body language to gauge their reactions to your manipulations. Rapid or heavy breathing, clenched fingers, curled toes, an arched back or even a tilted pelvis can all be signs of an approaching orgasm. Listen for audible clues like moaning or other verbal communications.
• When using vibrators, use a series of quick, light passes over the clitoris or frenulum intermixed with long, slow, heavy strokes and firmer pressure to stimulate the genitals and heighten arousal. Allow the sensations to build gradually for more intensity.
• Vary sensations and erogenous zones. Add in some spanking or nipple play to keep things lively. A little pain intensifies the pleasure!
• Blindfolds are perfect for teasing scenarios. The heightened senses and lack of control increase sexual arousal and add a sense of mystery to your orgasmic journey.
• Add some bondage to your foreplay! There is nothing more frustrating and exciting than to be at the mercy of a lover who is taking their time, pleasing you slowly, making you beg to release your sexual tension, bringing you close to orgasm time and time again but never quite letting you climax until they decide you are ready.
Which brings us to the agony and ecstasy of denial. But more on that next week. You’ll just have to wait to find out what I have in store for you…
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Masturbation, n. – 1. 1. The stimulation, usually by hand, of one’s genitals for sexual pleasure; the action or practice of masturbating oneself or (less commonly) another person; an instance of this.
-Oxford English Dictionary
Let no one say we do not strive to be less common! Mondays in May are for exploring the boundaries of mutual pleasure. Often, games of touchy-feely are thrown by the wayside in the throes of passion, but let’s not be over-hasty. Whether you’re just getting to know someone or seek to travel new avenues of pleasing one another, we’ve put together this handy road map to try to keep you from getting lost (though admittedly that’s fun sometimes, too!)
This Above All: To Thine Own Self Be True
Knowing how to please yourself is important, but so is being able to communicate what pleases you to your partner. Start off with how and where you like to be touched. Sometimes it’s easier to show, not tell. Put their hand on top of yours so they can feel how hard and fast you like it. If you’re experiencing discomfort or too much friction, put your hand on top of theirs as they touch you to guide them. consider using a silicone or water based lube to ensure your comfort.
Take the Road Less Traveled
Don’t be afraid to let your partner experiment on you. You can’t tickle yourself, and likewise, you may discover unsuspected pleasure in surprising new places if you let their hands roam a little. Likewise, don’t be afraid to boldly explore everywhere, but remember to be gentle in your ministrations. Look and listen to your partner’s reactions for clues about the best way to maximize their enjoyment!
What’s Good for the Goose is Good for the…Other Goose
A good place to start is with what you like for yourself. Use a speed and rhythm you’re comfortable with. Treat it like a dance, where one partner leads and the other matches them. Try not to step on one another’s er…toes!
Desire and pleasure are two way streets, and need signs and we all need signs and signals to guide us. “Faster.” “More Intense.” “Slower.” “Softer.” “Right there.” “Don’t stop!” Don’t be afraid of communicating what you like and, most importantly, what you don’t.
Don’t Be Afraid To Diversify
Toys and gear are great to add to your mutual exploration. Bring some of your favorites for your partner to use on you, or ask to see their toy drawer. Try a toy that accessorizes your technique, like the Toy Two Finger Extender, or one of the Tenga Egg Masturbators.
There are as many ways to please your partner as there are to please yourself. Don’t get too hung up on particulars, just be attentive and enthusiastic, and good times are sure to follow. When in doubt, don’t forget these simple directions: Get excited, get creative, and get off!
About a year ago, a few of my rowdy Texas girlfriends and I were gathered at a beachfront hotel for a friend’s wedding. As we lay in bed after the rehearsal dinner the drunken banter commenced, and by morning the ‘John Denver’ was born. What is a ‘John Denver’, you ask?
It turns out my friend (who has spectacular tits, made for hot dogging) enjoys boob sex so much that, as she said, “I thought titty fucking was like John Denver, who doesn’t love it??” We might have forgotten that golden nugget of information had she not awakened us, bright and early, with John Denver’s Greatest Hits. Within a week of returning home she had tattooed ‘John Denver’ in a delicate and graceful script right in the curve of her cleavage. Now that’s commitment!
Partialism – sexual interest in specific body parts – is quite common. Everyone has body parts, they are each as unique as the individual and can be quite fascinating. I myself have a bit of a nipple fetish. Anyone who has ever stepped in to my dungeon, or my bed, knows this. Nipples are like happy little joy magnets, drawing me to them and begging me to pinch them, squeeze them, slap them, scratch them, pierce them, poke them, twist them, lick them, bite them, suck them, tickle them. I cannot keep my hands, and sometimes mouth, off of them.
Foot fetish is arguably the most common body part fetish we indulge ourselves in, myself included. It’s one of my most frequent requests as a Dominatrix, and I sometimes attend foot fetish parties where lucky subs get the chance to worship my perfectly pedicured feet. Some of my favorite sexual memories involve a boyfriend with a serious foot fetish. I could drive him wild and give him a raging hard on in a crowded restaurant just by slipping off my shoe and placing my foot on the seat in between his legs. I didn’t even have to touch him, just my foot being there did the trick. But of course I did touch him! It made for great public tease and denial scenes, and even better foreplay. The frustration he suffered was so intense he could barely stand it and I loved every sexually agonizing minute. The drive home was always fast and furious. During sex he would stop and scold me if my feet weren’t constantly touching him, and it was hot. His fetish for my feet drove my arousal, as did the power that “The Twins” had over him. It was intoxicating.
Fetishes for certain body types are quite common as well. In a world where ‘thin is in’ and clothing sizes are available in 00 (because apparently you really can be less than zero) big girls reign supreme. Adipophilia or ‘fat fetish’ is strong attraction to overweight or obese people. A quick internet search reveals no shortage of forums and websites devoted to BBWs and those who worship them. As one commenter puts it, “For me it is a dream come true. I love to be with a big woman and be able to show her off and let the other men drool as they only have stick chicks.” Indeed I’ve heard several of my male friends lament the discomfort of being stabbed mid-coitus by the jutting hips or pelvic bones of a skinny girl, or feeling like they might break her, literally.
Now, thanks to the help of some very thoughtful porn stars, you can indulge in your favorite body oriented fetish fantasies! In the mood for a good old fashioned John Denver? Pitch your tent between Kim Williams’ 36DD peaks for a Rocky Mountain high. Sandal season got your foot fetish in a frenzy? Slip yourself in to the soft arches of Justine Joli’s size 6.5 feet and let her pretty pink toes stroke you to satisfaction. Bury yourself in April Flores’ big beautiful pussy, or spend the night sneaking in transsexual superstar Wendy Williams’ back door. Have a ball! It’s Masturbation Month, embrace your sexual fetish.
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Let’s not beat around the bush: It’s time to talk about your clitoris.
International clitorally-focused charity Clitoraid formed in 2004 is a group attempting to spread information about the barbaric tradition of female circumcision. Aiming to build a hospital in Burkina Faso, Africa in order to provide free reconstructive genital surgery and rehabilitation to all FGM victims, they are spreading the good word about the little man in the boat this week in honor of the launch of their first annual International Clitoris Awareness Week, and who are we to miss a chance to point a finger (or tongue, or well-crafted toy) at this oft-misunderstood cleft dweller.
Let’s start off with some clit facts to help avoid a clit-astrophe:
1) The clitoris is more than just a little button. It’s actually a complicated series of nerve endings that extend deep inside the body – up to 8 inches!
2) The clitoris contains more nerve endings than any other part of the human body, estimated at more than 8,000!
3) The laughing hyena has a complex relationship with her clitoris: Urinating, mating, and giving birth through a well-developed version of the organ!
In honor of International Clitoris Week and as part of our larger Masturbation Month festivities, we’re inviting you to experience the joy of this complex pleasure point. Take a gander at a few of our favorite clit-centric sex toys, vibrators, and devices on sale now.
The Micro Finger Tingler: This dainty little diddler fits directly on your prefered digit to direct soothing vibrations to the cherry atop your cupcake. Regularly priced at $20.00 on sale now for $16.00.
The Sqweel 2: Our perennial favorite paddlewheel is a whirling dervish of delight sure to send you spinning into orbit. Regularly priced at $59.99 on sale now for $47.99.
Black Pearl Vibrating Bullet: The rarest of beauties, this soft coated multi-speed bullet is sure to have you pearl diving again and again. Regularly priced at $13.99 on sale now for $6.99.
Venus Butterfly Massager: This elastic banded labial lepidopteran is also adept at coaxing nectar from your flower. Regularly priced at $19.50 on sale now for $13.65.
These toys not enough to float your boat, let alone elevate the little man? Never fear, we have a whole host of stimulating toys available during our Masturbation Month Sale, going strong, all month long!
We frequently find ourselves trapped by routine in all areas of our lives, and that can extend even to the most pleasurable activities. Whether you find yourself uninspired during your “me time” or you’re just looking for a new kind of kick, Fetish Friday is the day of the week during Masturbation Month when we examine kinky twists you can add to spice up your solo sessions.
This week we’ll be moving on up, talking about some great techniques and toys to titillate the nipples, from gentle brushing to extreme stimulation.
Sensation Play: Let’s start soft: If you have extremely sensitive nipples, you may not need much to heighten your enjoyment. Try gently brushing them with your fingers or a feather tickler. If you love the feel of leather, try drawing the tongue of a riding crop or suede flogger over your chest with one hand. Try a little temperature play with an ice cube, or an vibrating ice massager for extra thrills and chills!
Suck It Up: If you want or need a more intense feeling, try a suction device. Sucking sensations cause a joyous confusion of senses, but tend not to be painful. They run the gamut from simple nipple suckers, more complex suction cylinders or cupping sets to the ever popular and strong snake bite kit!
You May Feel A Slight Pinch: For solo play, you’ll want to keep one hand free to continue stoking the fire down below, so consider a toy or device that will allow for simultaneous tweaking and teasing with only one hand. Mandible Body Clamps are a great place to start for their adjustability and kung-fu grip. Japanese Clover Clamps are not adjustable, but give an intense sensation even when you aren’t tugging the chain. Finally, for the truly daring and devious amongst you, there is the incredibly intense Extreme Talon Nipple Clamps.
Nipple toys are a great way to easily expand the horizons of your pleasure. Start off with some simple pinching and prodding, or finding little things around the house to help amp up your alone time. We’ll be exploring other complimentary methods of modern self-love every Friday in May, as we celebrate Masturbation Month with our month long sale, special offers, contests and more!