Cock and ball torture, or CBT, is one of the most advanced kinds of play there is. It offers unlimited possibilities for intimacy and trust between the bottom and top, but those pleasures also come with a great deal of risk. The penis and scrotum are very sensitive and easily damaged if you play without knowing exactly what you’re doing.
This Saturday, Mistress Morgan Sterling is coming to Stockroom University for an extensive workshop on both the pleasures and the risks of CBT. She’ll cover a wide range of techniques from basic manual twisting and scratching with the fingernails to ball busting to penetration with urethral sounds, while giving tips on how to torment the penis and scrotum mercilessly while still keeping them perfectly healthy. She gave us a little preview of what she’s going to talk about this weekend.
When somebody is considering doing CBT for the first time, what safety tips do you recommend that they keep in mind?
First of all, they need to know themselves very well. So if they have had any kind of surgery — even if they have a hernia — it is something they need to disclose. They need to really be concerned with the amount of pain that they’re in and communicate that really, really well. Some of the other things they need to think about include are they okay with small abrasions? Are they okay with a little bit of discoloration on their genital area, because that may happen. They have to be concerned that there may be some healing involved. There may be some swelling, so they may need to ice the area afterwards. Usually the dominant will do that for them.
And they need to monitor things: Make sure that urine flow hasn’t changed, that semen flow hasn’t changed, that overall they feel okay after the scene.
How long after the scene do you usually have to monitor those things?
I usually monitor this with people for at least 48 hours. I will check in with them for 48 hours or so, depending on how severe the scene is. Obviously, if this is a new person, we are not going to do anything super-invasive or super-edgy. It’s going to be mostly hand techniques — so twisting, stretching, possibly some weights. Things like that. So there shouldn’t be a lot of damage. There shouldn’t be discoloration.
This is more what I look for versus what the bottom is looking for, so I’m looking to see whether the penis is turning blue or black or the balls are turning blue or black. If I see that there is no blood flow, or that there are abrasions or skin punctures, those are all things that I need to monitor.
If somebody has had hernia surgery, for instance, they probably can not have stretching with weights because they’ve already stretched that area, so that would be something that would be off the table. Another thing that they would need to think about — some of the things I ask about are whether the person is taking medications. If they’re taking blood thinners like baby aspirin, there’s a greater possibility of bruising and discoloration due to that. So it will be something that I look for. Bruising is okay, and if I know that the person is on blood thinners, obviously I will expect more of that to occur.
Some of the other things I ask about are, are they taking Viagra, Cialis, or injectables for erectile dysfunction. This is very important. What can happen is, let’s say I’ve put a cock ring on them that is solid metal and then they experience an erection; If they are taking one of those drugs, there is a great possibility that they will not be able to remove the cock ring. So I will have to know that and then use a different device on them. One that can be removed easily. This has actually happened to me before.
What did you do in that situation?
Basically, time. After a while, the drug will wear off and the cock ring can be removed. Unfortunately, it’s very uncomfortable in the meantime. Also, depending on how tight the cock ring was in the first place, sometimes the addition of lube under the cock ring may help let it slip off. Just as when you have a limb that’s bleeding, elevate to get the blood away from the area. Put the person on their back so the blood can drain to a certain degree away from the area. Things like that. Ice may help.
Safety is very important. This is a delicate area. It’s not like flogging somebody’s back. One of the things that I’m going to stress in the class is, people need to be aware of the risks of doing this kind of play. You only have one penis, and most people are very attached to their penises and their scrotums and they want to keep them in good working condition.
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What kind of techniques do you recommend in your class for good CBT?
Well, I like a lot of twisting with the hands, using my nails on the penis and scrotum. Also, you know the scrotum is very sensitive. When the skin of the scrotum is stretched, there is more sensitivity, so obviously more enjoyment for the individual. So, I will show stretching technique, how to stretch the scrotum skin around the testicles in such a way that the testicles are more accessible so that they be played with. I’ll be showing some bondage techniques that will allow the testicles to be more accessible. Then, showing some tools for such play. Some of the tools that I like to use can be found around the home. Rubber bands, for instance. Rubber bands for the hair, little clips that can be put on the penis and then flogged off. So, you know, if someone happens to be somewhere and they don’t have their toy bag, they can still find ways to play. Shoelaces are a great way to bind the cock and balls.
In terms of impact, I will show how to do some ball busting. How to safely kick someone; the safety has to do not just with safely kicking them so that you don’t rupture a testicle, but also safety of the top — how to kick properly so that you don’t break your toes, for instance, if you happen to connect with their pelvic bone.
So how do you kick someone in the balls safely?
Well, you use the top of the foot; you never use the toes, because that is what’s most likely to break. And like in any kind of play, usually I start off very softly. So it’s almost like a warmup. It would almost be like bouncing a ball very lightly. Just to get the person used to the sensation.
Then after a few bounces, you can do a harder kick. They can be on their knees for that, so I don’t have to kick very high up. I can also kick them from behind; if they’re on all fours, they can be kicked from behind. Some people find that very pleasurable, especially if they’re kicked not directly in the balls, but in the perineum, what some call the taint. Some people really like that, plus it’s a very vulnerable position to be in. This is really all about control, so obviously the more vulnerable they feel, the more control the top has.
There are also other ways to ball bust with the hand. You can slap the cock, you can slap the balls, you can also do knee kicks to the groin. Those have to be done very carefully because it’s very easy to detach a testicle between the knee and the pelvic bone and a testicle can rupture, so I will show safe ways to do that.
You also initially mentioned that you were going to show some of the more invasive techniques, with sounds and stuff. That’s very advanced play. What procedures do you use to do that safely?
Well, first of all, I’m going to warn people that if they’re planning to use sounds, for the first, second, and probably fifth time, they need to do it with an experienced top present. I don’t advocate that they start doing this kind of edge play by themselves.
So, some of the preparation things that need to happen is that they need to sterilize their sounds. I use an autoclave, but in the absence of an autoclave, there is another way of sterilizing sounds by using MadaCide [medical sterilizing solution], which basically kills all kinds of bacteria, including hepatitis. So that has to happen before they start using sounds.
Another thing: Again, they have to make sure that the bottom is healthy. That they haven’t had urethral surgery, that they haven’t had bladder infection, urinary tract infections — that they are in good condition. Provided that you have all of those in place, sterile lube has to be used to do that kind of play, and you start out with the smallest possible sound.
Sounds are never forced. They’re literally dropped. You allow gravity to take hold. They’re suspended in lube, and they’re allowed to travel only as far as the person can take them. So, there is absolutely no forcing, and if the person is uncomfortable with that kind of play, then we don’t do it.
Also, one of the questions I ask before I drop sounds, especially with a person I’ve never played with before is, do they want to watch or would they prefer to be blindfolded? Sometimes the visual can be very alarming. But they may want to experience the sensation, so it is up to the bottom to guide me and tell me how much of it they want to witness. And then of course, it’s up to the bottom to tell me how much of it they can take. It’s a very intimate form of play. Possibly the most invasive and the most intimate, because you are entering an area where generally humans don’t go. It takes a tremendous amount of focus to do sound play.
And a lot of trust.
Yes, absolutely a lot of trust, and usually the trust begins to grow as the play proceeds, and as the bottom feels comfortable that their limits are not being breached.
How do you select sounds when you’re buying them?
I am looking for surgical steel. I am looking for sounds which are absolutely perfect; completely and totally smooth. If they’re not, I will not purchase them.
Hegar sounds are curved to follow the shape of the urethra.
I work with two kinds of sounds: I like Hegar sounds which are curved sounds which somewhat conform to the shape of the urethra. And then I love rosebud sounds, and those are usually for people who have done sounds before; bottoms who are experienced and want more sensation. Again, surgical steel of the highest quality.
CBT Practices with Mistress Morgan Sterling
Saturday, December 5, 2-5 PM
Stockroom Hall
2811 W. Sunset Blvd.
Los Angeles, CA 90026
